Open to all interested, I am hosting a CONFERENCE CALL about my upcoming book, The Conference for Leaders.
I am creating a network of people, friends, associates, former students from anywhere/everywhere to collaborate with..
That potentially means something different to each of you. You may have an interest, skill, passion, etc in leadership, marketing, facilitation, bringing development to your city, community, church, or business.????...
There are potential opportunities for us to work together; if that sounds good to you.
1130am/CST, TODAY!!!!,New Years Eve
Dial - (605) 562-3000
Enter Access Code - 574567#
Mute *6, ...will last about 20-30 minutes
God's best to you as we finish out this decade today and tonight. Blessings for an awesome 2011!
Friday, December 31, 2010
Monday, December 27, 2010
OK to forget about Santa, but not...
As this holiday season was approaching, I had lots of thoughts about how people might view both God and Santa Clause in similar ways. People place hope, wishes, expectations, prayers and have good feelings toward both huh? I intended to write about all that, but did not get that done. However I did want to share some thoughts now AFTER Christmas.
These thoughts are still about the parallel worlds and thinking regarding Jesus and Santa. It strikes me how much focus builds up about both as we head into that magical time of year, and the 25th.
We focus on Santa and all that we hope he brings us and we do somewhat the same with Jesus; along with thinking of His birth, the babe in the manager, 3 Wise men, and all that goes with the birth of our Savior.
An exciting time of the year for sure. I hope this just serves as a good reminder for all of us.
People forget about Santa, allowing his memories to fade into wherever until this time next year, right? We might tend to do the same for the baby Jesus, but we cannot and should not, so DO NOT.
Yes He is the Reason for the Season, but also for every season! Keep Him uppermost in your thoughts, prayers, thinking, wishes, hopes, expectations, etc every day of the year, all year.
Hopefully when we thanked Santa, that we REALLY thanked God!
We head toward 2011, the first year of a new decade. Remember that our constant prayers, hopes and expectations, wants and needs need to be placed in that baby in the manager, our Savior, every day, every season. A relationship with Him is necessary ALL year round.
I gotta go do some praying! God's best to you my friend and Merry Christmas
Doug
These thoughts are still about the parallel worlds and thinking regarding Jesus and Santa. It strikes me how much focus builds up about both as we head into that magical time of year, and the 25th.
We focus on Santa and all that we hope he brings us and we do somewhat the same with Jesus; along with thinking of His birth, the babe in the manager, 3 Wise men, and all that goes with the birth of our Savior.
An exciting time of the year for sure. I hope this just serves as a good reminder for all of us.
People forget about Santa, allowing his memories to fade into wherever until this time next year, right? We might tend to do the same for the baby Jesus, but we cannot and should not, so DO NOT.
Yes He is the Reason for the Season, but also for every season! Keep Him uppermost in your thoughts, prayers, thinking, wishes, hopes, expectations, etc every day of the year, all year.
Hopefully when we thanked Santa, that we REALLY thanked God!
We head toward 2011, the first year of a new decade. Remember that our constant prayers, hopes and expectations, wants and needs need to be placed in that baby in the manager, our Savior, every day, every season. A relationship with Him is necessary ALL year round.
I gotta go do some praying! God's best to you my friend and Merry Christmas
Doug
Friday, December 17, 2010
The true story of Rudolph
This was shared with me, just passing on :) If it is not true, you go disprove, I would just assume believe it. That is just me though:
A man named Bob May, depressed and brokenhearted, stared out his drafty apartment window into the chilling December night.
His 4-year-old daughter Barbara sat on his lap quietly sobbing. Bobs wife, Evelyn, was dying of cancer Little Barbara could not understand why her mommy could never come home. Barbara looked up into her dads eyes and asked, Why is Mommy not just like everybodys Mommy? Bobs jaw tightened and his eyes welled with tears. Her question brought waves of grief, but also of anger. It had been the story of Bobs life. Life always had to be different for Bob.
Small when he was a kid, Bob was often bullied by other boys. He was too little at the time to compete in sports. He was often called names he would rather not remember. From childhood, Bob was different and never seemed to fit in. Bob did complete college, married his loving wife and was grateful to get his job as a copywriter at Montgomery Ward during the Great Depression. Then he was blessed with his little girl. But it was all short-lived. Evelyns bout with cancer stripped them of all their savings and now Bob and his daughter were forced to live in a two-room apartment in the Chicago slums. Evelyn died just days before Christmas in 1938.
Bob struggled to give hope to his child, for whom he couldn't even afford to buy a Christmas gift. But if he could not buy a gift, he was determined to make one - a storybook! Bob had created an animal character in his own mind and told the animals story to little Barbara to give her comfort and hope. Again and again Bob told the story, embellishing it more with each telling. Who was the character? What was the story all about? The story Bob May created was his own autobiography in fable form. The character he created was a misfit outcast like he was. The name of the character? A little reindeer named Rudolph, with a big shiny nose. Bob finished the book just in time to give it to his little girl on Christmas Day. But the story does not end there.
The general manager of Montgomery Ward caught wind of the little storybook and offered Bob May a nominal fee to purchase the rights to print the book. Wards went on to print, Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer and distribute it to children visiting Santa Claus in their stores. By 1946 Wards had printed and distributed more than six million copies of Rudolph. That same year, a major publisher wanted to purchase the rights from Wards to print an updated version of the book.
In an unprecedented gesture of kindness, the CEO of Wards returned all rights back to Bob May. The book became a best seller. Many toy and marketing deals followed and Bob May, now remarried with a growing family, became wealthy from the story he created to comfort his grieving daughter. But the story does not end there either.
Bob's brother-in-law, Johnny Marks, made a song adaptation to Rudolph. Though the song was turned down by such popular vocalists as Bing Crosby and Dinah Shore, it was recorded by the singing cowboy, Gene Autry. Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer was released in 1949 and became a phenomenal success, selling more records than any other Christmas song, with the exception of White Christmas.
The gift of love that Bob May created for his daughter so long ago kept on returning back to bless him again and again. And Bob May learned the lesson, just like his dear friend Rudolph, that being different is not so bad. In fact, being different can be a blessing.
MERRY CHRISTMAS and Gods very best to you my friend. This has me thinking of a blog about Jesus and Santa, maybe, mmmmmmm BOOKER
A man named Bob May, depressed and brokenhearted, stared out his drafty apartment window into the chilling December night.
His 4-year-old daughter Barbara sat on his lap quietly sobbing. Bobs wife, Evelyn, was dying of cancer Little Barbara could not understand why her mommy could never come home. Barbara looked up into her dads eyes and asked, Why is Mommy not just like everybodys Mommy? Bobs jaw tightened and his eyes welled with tears. Her question brought waves of grief, but also of anger. It had been the story of Bobs life. Life always had to be different for Bob.
Small when he was a kid, Bob was often bullied by other boys. He was too little at the time to compete in sports. He was often called names he would rather not remember. From childhood, Bob was different and never seemed to fit in. Bob did complete college, married his loving wife and was grateful to get his job as a copywriter at Montgomery Ward during the Great Depression. Then he was blessed with his little girl. But it was all short-lived. Evelyns bout with cancer stripped them of all their savings and now Bob and his daughter were forced to live in a two-room apartment in the Chicago slums. Evelyn died just days before Christmas in 1938.
Bob struggled to give hope to his child, for whom he couldn't even afford to buy a Christmas gift. But if he could not buy a gift, he was determined to make one - a storybook! Bob had created an animal character in his own mind and told the animals story to little Barbara to give her comfort and hope. Again and again Bob told the story, embellishing it more with each telling. Who was the character? What was the story all about? The story Bob May created was his own autobiography in fable form. The character he created was a misfit outcast like he was. The name of the character? A little reindeer named Rudolph, with a big shiny nose. Bob finished the book just in time to give it to his little girl on Christmas Day. But the story does not end there.
The general manager of Montgomery Ward caught wind of the little storybook and offered Bob May a nominal fee to purchase the rights to print the book. Wards went on to print, Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer and distribute it to children visiting Santa Claus in their stores. By 1946 Wards had printed and distributed more than six million copies of Rudolph. That same year, a major publisher wanted to purchase the rights from Wards to print an updated version of the book.
In an unprecedented gesture of kindness, the CEO of Wards returned all rights back to Bob May. The book became a best seller. Many toy and marketing deals followed and Bob May, now remarried with a growing family, became wealthy from the story he created to comfort his grieving daughter. But the story does not end there either.
Bob's brother-in-law, Johnny Marks, made a song adaptation to Rudolph. Though the song was turned down by such popular vocalists as Bing Crosby and Dinah Shore, it was recorded by the singing cowboy, Gene Autry. Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer was released in 1949 and became a phenomenal success, selling more records than any other Christmas song, with the exception of White Christmas.
The gift of love that Bob May created for his daughter so long ago kept on returning back to bless him again and again. And Bob May learned the lesson, just like his dear friend Rudolph, that being different is not so bad. In fact, being different can be a blessing.
MERRY CHRISTMAS and Gods very best to you my friend. This has me thinking of a blog about Jesus and Santa, maybe, mmmmmmm BOOKER
HELP with book, follow-up work, interested?
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! Continuing to get next book finished, The Conference for Leaders. The book is a dynamic process with a vision of including actual conferences, training, consulting, speaking, marketing...... I am in need of some help, advice, et. If you have any of these or know someone, please contact me. FYI, there isn't much $ on the front end; this will require you seeing the vision and possibilities, using your expertise/interests and helping to make this happen. Needs:
1. We need to establish a 1-800#, to include capabilities to do conferencing
2. Someone to do some phone work/telemarketing
3. Contact people in cities around the country who would be interested in hosting, being involved, facilitating, networking
4. Contact management
5. Curriculum development, ground and online
6. Editing
7. Leads into working with Church Leadership
8. Connections to Parenting Leadership
....more later, please know that I/we need people to help make it happen -leaders, thinkers, innovators, creators, vs. waiting on a task to do?!?!... Booker, 9132320244 / doug@bookertraining.com
1. We need to establish a 1-800#, to include capabilities to do conferencing
2. Someone to do some phone work/telemarketing
3. Contact people in cities around the country who would be interested in hosting, being involved, facilitating, networking
4. Contact management
5. Curriculum development, ground and online
6. Editing
7. Leads into working with Church Leadership
8. Connections to Parenting Leadership
....more later, please know that I/we need people to help make it happen -leaders, thinkers, innovators, creators, vs. waiting on a task to do?!?!... Booker, 9132320244 / doug@bookertraining.com
Monday, December 13, 2010
WAY TOO BLESSED, have a day of smiles this day!
Way too blessed is what has been on my mind lately; when I think of it, I have much about which to smile. I have my struggles, as we all do. My wife’s health is not good, and we’ll sure take your prayers in that regard. The economy still affects business and making a living no doubt. At the same time, I have good family, a roof overhead, plenty to eat daily, good friends, work and people to teach; and we are keeping pretty warm even. Thank you Lord and please be with all those without what I do have – those in need.
As I ponder this, I thought of my world in dealing with business, leaders, management and leadership. As I sought to make a connection, it struck me that leaders should be conscious of this way too blessed thing as well.
They are blessed not only with whatever blessings in their personal life, but also of the opportunity and privilege to lead people. They have been given the reigns to make decisions for and about those they lead. Leaders should realize that being able to serve those they have been entrusted with is indeed a noble calling. Those who are led well and effectively surely know they are blessed.
If you are a leader, you have been given the opportunity to care for people. They are depending on your leadership to make their world at work, a whole bunch of their lives as good as possible. They are there for you to support, respect, build, grow and develop; and oh yeah you need them.
In finishing up the book I am writing, I was into some critical thinking regarding the relationship between leader and follower(s). Just think how much is dependent on you, the leader to make that world enjoyable, productive and for you to create an environment; one where people can bless you through their work and efforts?
Leaders should be thankful they are way too blessed and remain very aware that that they too are way too blessed. Leaders need to be careful not to take those people for granted; your blessed world counts on them! When the leaders make their world as good as possible, many more blessings will come their way. If those relationships and those people who maybe aren’t so blessed are ignored, well you may soon learn how blessed you used to be. Realize this maybe even selfishly, that by taking care of them, you are taking care of YOU.
Yes I am personally blessed again this Christmas, our last of this decade. Likely I am more blessed than I deserve. It is my wish and hope I can bless some people around me or that I encounter during this holiday season. I hope you will look for some to bless as well. If you lead folks, probably right there on that team you lead is a good place to begin that search.
Bless you and I hope you and yours find those tidings of great joy!
As I ponder this, I thought of my world in dealing with business, leaders, management and leadership. As I sought to make a connection, it struck me that leaders should be conscious of this way too blessed thing as well.
They are blessed not only with whatever blessings in their personal life, but also of the opportunity and privilege to lead people. They have been given the reigns to make decisions for and about those they lead. Leaders should realize that being able to serve those they have been entrusted with is indeed a noble calling. Those who are led well and effectively surely know they are blessed.
If you are a leader, you have been given the opportunity to care for people. They are depending on your leadership to make their world at work, a whole bunch of their lives as good as possible. They are there for you to support, respect, build, grow and develop; and oh yeah you need them.
In finishing up the book I am writing, I was into some critical thinking regarding the relationship between leader and follower(s). Just think how much is dependent on you, the leader to make that world enjoyable, productive and for you to create an environment; one where people can bless you through their work and efforts?
Leaders should be thankful they are way too blessed and remain very aware that that they too are way too blessed. Leaders need to be careful not to take those people for granted; your blessed world counts on them! When the leaders make their world as good as possible, many more blessings will come their way. If those relationships and those people who maybe aren’t so blessed are ignored, well you may soon learn how blessed you used to be. Realize this maybe even selfishly, that by taking care of them, you are taking care of YOU.
Yes I am personally blessed again this Christmas, our last of this decade. Likely I am more blessed than I deserve. It is my wish and hope I can bless some people around me or that I encounter during this holiday season. I hope you will look for some to bless as well. If you lead folks, probably right there on that team you lead is a good place to begin that search.
Bless you and I hope you and yours find those tidings of great joy!
Saturday, December 11, 2010
A life-changing opportunity, recommending a friend...
Strongly recommend you take a moment:
Ready to maximize your personal leadership and earning potential?
We are a group of successful entrepreneurs looking for successful, business-minded individuals with a strong desire for personal growth, career fulfillment, and financial success.
Whether starting a career or searching for a new opportunity, we will help you capitalize on your strengths in a highly supportive and consultative environment.
Allow us to share with you some history of this exceptional team and answer some of the questions you may have:
Income Potential:
Currently, each of our team members owns his or her own business and is very successful. The top team member earns over $1,000,000 and the average income for our immediate team is into the six figures. You control your own time and income.
Training and Growth:
When working with us, you receive extensive training, and support from us throughout your career. You will be using our powerful and duplicated business system and marketing platforms to attract interested prospective clients to you and your business.
Getting Started:
Our flexible training program allows you to begin your career on a part time or full time basis. This program is in addition to your commissions.
Growth Opportunities:
There has never been a better time to be self employed. Our expanding markets and innovative products create the opportunity for dynamic and rapid growth.
Qualifications:
We require highly motivated individuals willing to invest their time and energy into creating a profitable and rewarding business. You must have a desire to succeed, have an independent spirit and strong work ethic.
If you are interested in being in business for yourself but not by yourself, while providing a platform for others to succeed, please visit my website: http://ping.fm/O2NtW
...then contact me at rnheim@aol.com or call me direct at 913-744-1597.
Best regards,
Dr. Ron Heim
Elevate Advisor
rnheim@aol.com
913.744.1597
Making it happen – together!
Ready to maximize your personal leadership and earning potential?
We are a group of successful entrepreneurs looking for successful, business-minded individuals with a strong desire for personal growth, career fulfillment, and financial success.
Whether starting a career or searching for a new opportunity, we will help you capitalize on your strengths in a highly supportive and consultative environment.
Allow us to share with you some history of this exceptional team and answer some of the questions you may have:
Income Potential:
Currently, each of our team members owns his or her own business and is very successful. The top team member earns over $1,000,000 and the average income for our immediate team is into the six figures. You control your own time and income.
Training and Growth:
When working with us, you receive extensive training, and support from us throughout your career. You will be using our powerful and duplicated business system and marketing platforms to attract interested prospective clients to you and your business.
Getting Started:
Our flexible training program allows you to begin your career on a part time or full time basis. This program is in addition to your commissions.
Growth Opportunities:
There has never been a better time to be self employed. Our expanding markets and innovative products create the opportunity for dynamic and rapid growth.
Qualifications:
We require highly motivated individuals willing to invest their time and energy into creating a profitable and rewarding business. You must have a desire to succeed, have an independent spirit and strong work ethic.
If you are interested in being in business for yourself but not by yourself, while providing a platform for others to succeed, please visit my website: http://ping.fm/O2NtW
...then contact me at rnheim@aol.com or call me direct at 913-744-1597.
Best regards,
Dr. Ron Heim
Elevate Advisor
rnheim@aol.com
913.744.1597
Making it happen – together!
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Booker, Book and Working Together?!?
I have a project to be tied to doing some conferences; along with opportunities in training, consulting, speaking, etc. I am in need of some other players on the team! It has been a dream of mine to have something like this - where I can involve friends, associates, former students, educators and other connections/relationships from my life. If you have time; if you could see us working together; and/or you have any interest, please contact me. For relationships not in my geographical area (KC), this could indeed involve you, wherever you might reside.
Skills, knowledge and expertise wanted/needed: Leadership/Management, Communications, Parenting, Faith & Church leadership, Book graphics, Org Development, People-development, Marketing, Training, Women in Leadership, Conferencing, etc.
The book behind all of this will be out by first of 2011; if you would just like to be kept posted on the book, let me know that as well. My first two books will play into this as well. More on all soon, this has very exciting potential for many reasons. If it seems to fit for you, I look forward to hearing from you.
God's best, Doug
www.bookertraining.com
913.232.0244
doug@bookertraining.com
Skills, knowledge and expertise wanted/needed: Leadership/Management, Communications, Parenting, Faith & Church leadership, Book graphics, Org Development, People-development, Marketing, Training, Women in Leadership, Conferencing, etc.
The book behind all of this will be out by first of 2011; if you would just like to be kept posted on the book, let me know that as well. My first two books will play into this as well. More on all soon, this has very exciting potential for many reasons. If it seems to fit for you, I look forward to hearing from you.
God's best, Doug
www.bookertraining.com
913.232.0244
doug@bookertraining.com
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
RELATE FIRST, ASK SECOND
Recently, I have become hugely interested between the relationships & parallels between my faith and the dynamics of leadership & relationships. One of these hit me yesterday listening to a radio talk show. I hope you find something useful and relevant here. Either way, I always welcome your reactions, thinking, argument, etc!
I frequently share with leaders in coaching, consulting or in academic management courses, about the value of establishing relationship(s) quickly and early on - before you need someone. As the new one (whether manager or employee), it just makes sense that while you are learning the ropes of the company and business, what better time to be making strong relationships? The fact is, we will NEED something from them; be ASKING for something; want their HELP; or be in CONFLICT with them sooner or later!
This is why it is so critical to have a relationship BEFORE you need them, right? Doesn’t that make sense? Yet so often people just start functioning around someone, or manage them without focusing on IT until IT is the problem – the undeveloped relationship!
It struck me listening to this Christian talk show and driving down the road how ludicrous this is, that we do this. I was trying to think of some parallels or analogies, and the simplest one came to mind. When we are asking someone for help or for something, whether this is your employee, your co-worker, or maybe even God! wouldn’t it be easier if you had a relationship? I thought of someone in need of something, let that be YOU. Now would you go out and seek someone you know or just find the first stranger walking down the street to seek help from?
This lady was calling in to the talk show, asking about how she didn’t feel like she was connecting to God when she prayed for stuff. The host made the point, that just as in our human relationships; we need to spend the quality time up front. Get to know HIM; get to know your employee or co-worker, etc. He drew the parallel also of the parent and kid, and what if there was no love there; just a kid asking unceasingly for stuff all the time without the loving relationship in place?
Well, I could go on and on here - but I guess you probably see the point here. Whether it is about our most important relationship in life, that one with our God, Jesus Christ or with other humans – nurture the relationship first! Reminds me of the quote
EFFECTIVE LEADERS REALIZE YOU GET THE HEART BEFORE ASKING FOR THE HAND!
A scripture that has some connection: Luke 13:22 - 27 (not the most obvious scripture, you may have to think a bit to see the relationship. But hey, thinking is a good thing, huh?)
Pray when you don’t need anything. Have a cup of coffee with others when/before you need anything!
I frequently share with leaders in coaching, consulting or in academic management courses, about the value of establishing relationship(s) quickly and early on - before you need someone. As the new one (whether manager or employee), it just makes sense that while you are learning the ropes of the company and business, what better time to be making strong relationships? The fact is, we will NEED something from them; be ASKING for something; want their HELP; or be in CONFLICT with them sooner or later!
This is why it is so critical to have a relationship BEFORE you need them, right? Doesn’t that make sense? Yet so often people just start functioning around someone, or manage them without focusing on IT until IT is the problem – the undeveloped relationship!
It struck me listening to this Christian talk show and driving down the road how ludicrous this is, that we do this. I was trying to think of some parallels or analogies, and the simplest one came to mind. When we are asking someone for help or for something, whether this is your employee, your co-worker, or maybe even God! wouldn’t it be easier if you had a relationship? I thought of someone in need of something, let that be YOU. Now would you go out and seek someone you know or just find the first stranger walking down the street to seek help from?
This lady was calling in to the talk show, asking about how she didn’t feel like she was connecting to God when she prayed for stuff. The host made the point, that just as in our human relationships; we need to spend the quality time up front. Get to know HIM; get to know your employee or co-worker, etc. He drew the parallel also of the parent and kid, and what if there was no love there; just a kid asking unceasingly for stuff all the time without the loving relationship in place?
Well, I could go on and on here - but I guess you probably see the point here. Whether it is about our most important relationship in life, that one with our God, Jesus Christ or with other humans – nurture the relationship first! Reminds me of the quote
EFFECTIVE LEADERS REALIZE YOU GET THE HEART BEFORE ASKING FOR THE HAND!
A scripture that has some connection: Luke 13:22 - 27 (not the most obvious scripture, you may have to think a bit to see the relationship. But hey, thinking is a good thing, huh?)
Pray when you don’t need anything. Have a cup of coffee with others when/before you need anything!
Monday, November 22, 2010
IT DOES NOT GET ANY BETTER THAN THIS
It cannot be any better because it is where we are. At any given time, we have done what we can and all we have is hope at that point. By the way, if you/I were not smart enough to do so earlier, when it gets to the HOPE point, you better turn it over to Him!
Lots of emotions and thoughts in my head over recent days due to family, Thanksgiving, Church, Veterans Day, holidays and well, LIFE!
It struck me the phrase (above) made popular years ago, was MY greeting to anyone and everyone back then. I used it for several years. I used it as an optimistic point of view to internalize and portray a positive attitude. Interestingly it was during a time of struggles and I think it helped me. It was also before I knew HIM. Somewhere in the midst of some deeper human struggles in life it went away from my vocabulary.
Sunday, in church I got to thinking about this for some strange reason; HE was stirring my mind and heart are all over the map. HE and my church do that frequently; that is a good thing.
I was praying for my wife’s health, my work, consulting/speaking opportunities, finances and oh yeah, ........ALL those zillions of people in this world who are struggling soooooo much more than I am!
That is when that old phrase hit me. I was thinking of how so many years later, now that I have BECOME NEW and God is all over my life, I should REALLY be using that phrase. I plan to adopt it again - because truly IT DOES NOT GET ANY BETTER THAN THIS!
You see, it cannot be any better, because it is His Will and HE is there with me (and with us) huh?
Yes our struggles are relative and someone is always worse off than we are. Still our struggles are very real! It is where we are, the pains, suffering and struggles are ours indeed. That place is as good as it gets, because HE determines it so.
We are TO BE glad for this day - to be thankful for where we are, right? Did this make any sense to you?
Thanks for letting me share that. Well, HAPPY THANKSGIVING anyway.
Lots of emotions and thoughts in my head over recent days due to family, Thanksgiving, Church, Veterans Day, holidays and well, LIFE!
It struck me the phrase (above) made popular years ago, was MY greeting to anyone and everyone back then. I used it for several years. I used it as an optimistic point of view to internalize and portray a positive attitude. Interestingly it was during a time of struggles and I think it helped me. It was also before I knew HIM. Somewhere in the midst of some deeper human struggles in life it went away from my vocabulary.
Sunday, in church I got to thinking about this for some strange reason; HE was stirring my mind and heart are all over the map. HE and my church do that frequently; that is a good thing.
I was praying for my wife’s health, my work, consulting/speaking opportunities, finances and oh yeah, ........ALL those zillions of people in this world who are struggling soooooo much more than I am!
That is when that old phrase hit me. I was thinking of how so many years later, now that I have BECOME NEW and God is all over my life, I should REALLY be using that phrase. I plan to adopt it again - because truly IT DOES NOT GET ANY BETTER THAN THIS!
You see, it cannot be any better, because it is His Will and HE is there with me (and with us) huh?
Yes our struggles are relative and someone is always worse off than we are. Still our struggles are very real! It is where we are, the pains, suffering and struggles are ours indeed. That place is as good as it gets, because HE determines it so.
We are TO BE glad for this day - to be thankful for where we are, right? Did this make any sense to you?
Thanks for letting me share that. Well, HAPPY THANKSGIVING anyway.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
REACH OUT! ?. you just never know
Driving home today I heard the following story on the radio. It was pretty timely for me because recently I had been struggling and feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the relationships in my life. You see, I have been reaching out, networking and connecting with lots of neat people. I have made a lot of new friends recently; had a lot of great ones already! Lots of relationships, nice problem huh? Regardless, this story shed a little light on this…
...A couple of decades ago, this lady had just moved into a new apartment. She was down at the apartment complex swimming pool one morning when she spotted a woman across the pool sitting alone. She had a very apparent birth mark/defect on her face. She also noticed some ladies nearby who seemingly were having nothing to do with her. The lady decided to go over and say hello. The two of them quickly hit it off and discovered that they were both pregnant, one expecting in July and one in December.
They met nearly every morning for about a month, when one morning the other woman shared that her husband had taken a job and they were going to have to move. They had become pretty close and tears were shed as they said their goodbyes. The other woman said as she walked away: You have a boy and I’ll have a girl and one day they will get married, how about that? Time went by and they lost touch with each other.
One day, the lady’s 18 year old son came home sharing that he had met this girl and really liked her. They had been working in the same company, different departments... He went on to say the girl had revealed that her mom knew her (the boy’s mom)!
You got it, don’t you? Yes, the girl was indeed the daughter of the woman who had moved away 18 years ago. The boy and girl ended up married and the lady finished her story on the radio saying that she now has a wonderful daughter in law and three great grandchildren!
( Heard from a caller on KLOVE radio today )
I must tell you I am recommitted to continuing to reach out and meet people, make new friends, build relationships, etc!!! Developed a new one earlier today didn't I Patrick?
We just never know what HE is up to, do we?
BY THE WAY, if we haven’t touched base recently, why don’t you reach out and let me know?!?
Any messages here for you?
...A couple of decades ago, this lady had just moved into a new apartment. She was down at the apartment complex swimming pool one morning when she spotted a woman across the pool sitting alone. She had a very apparent birth mark/defect on her face. She also noticed some ladies nearby who seemingly were having nothing to do with her. The lady decided to go over and say hello. The two of them quickly hit it off and discovered that they were both pregnant, one expecting in July and one in December.
They met nearly every morning for about a month, when one morning the other woman shared that her husband had taken a job and they were going to have to move. They had become pretty close and tears were shed as they said their goodbyes. The other woman said as she walked away: You have a boy and I’ll have a girl and one day they will get married, how about that? Time went by and they lost touch with each other.
One day, the lady’s 18 year old son came home sharing that he had met this girl and really liked her. They had been working in the same company, different departments... He went on to say the girl had revealed that her mom knew her (the boy’s mom)!
You got it, don’t you? Yes, the girl was indeed the daughter of the woman who had moved away 18 years ago. The boy and girl ended up married and the lady finished her story on the radio saying that she now has a wonderful daughter in law and three great grandchildren!
( Heard from a caller on KLOVE radio today )
I must tell you I am recommitted to continuing to reach out and meet people, make new friends, build relationships, etc!!! Developed a new one earlier today didn't I Patrick?
We just never know what HE is up to, do we?
BY THE WAY, if we haven’t touched base recently, why don’t you reach out and let me know?!?
Any messages here for you?
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Worth passing on? Proposed change to US Constitution
The Time Has Indeed Come!
Governors of 35 states have already filed suit against the Federal Government for imposing unlawful burdens upon them. It only takes 38 (of the 50) States to convene a Constitutional Convention.
This will take less than thirty seconds to read. If you agree, please pass it on.
For too long we have been too complacent about the workings of Congress. Many citizens had no idea that members of Congress could retire with the same pay after only one term, that they specifically exempted themselves from many of the laws they have passed (such as being exempt from any fear of prosecution for sexual harassment) while ordinary citizens must live under those laws. Somehow, that doesn't seem logical. We do not have an elite that is above the law.
I TRULY don't care if they are Democrat, Republican, Independent or whatever. The self-serving must stop.
A Constitutional Convention - this is a good way to do that. It is an idea whose time has come. And, with the advent of modern communication, the process can be moved along with incredible speed. There is talk out there that the "government" doesn't care what the people think. That is irrelevant. It is incumbent on the population to address elected officials to the wrongs afflicted against the populace...you and me. Think about this...
The 26th amendment (granting the right to vote for 18 year-olds) took only 3 months & 8 days to be ratified! Why? Simple! The people demanded it. That was in 1971...before computers, before e-mail, before cell phones, etc.
Of the 27 amendments to the Constitution, seven (7) took 1 year or less to become the law of the land...all because of public pressure.
I'm asking each addressee to forward this Email to a minimum of twenty people on their Address list; in turn ask each of those to do likewise.
In three days, most people in The United States of America will have the message. This is one proposal that really should be passed around.
Proposed 28th Amendment to the United States Constitution:
"Congress shall make no law that applies to the citizens of the United States that does not apply equally to the Senators and/or Representatives; and, Congress shall make no law that applies to the Senators and/or Representatives that does not apply equally to the citizens of the United States ."
Governors of 35 states have already filed suit against the Federal Government for imposing unlawful burdens upon them. It only takes 38 (of the 50) States to convene a Constitutional Convention.
This will take less than thirty seconds to read. If you agree, please pass it on.
For too long we have been too complacent about the workings of Congress. Many citizens had no idea that members of Congress could retire with the same pay after only one term, that they specifically exempted themselves from many of the laws they have passed (such as being exempt from any fear of prosecution for sexual harassment) while ordinary citizens must live under those laws. Somehow, that doesn't seem logical. We do not have an elite that is above the law.
I TRULY don't care if they are Democrat, Republican, Independent or whatever. The self-serving must stop.
A Constitutional Convention - this is a good way to do that. It is an idea whose time has come. And, with the advent of modern communication, the process can be moved along with incredible speed. There is talk out there that the "government" doesn't care what the people think. That is irrelevant. It is incumbent on the population to address elected officials to the wrongs afflicted against the populace...you and me. Think about this...
The 26th amendment (granting the right to vote for 18 year-olds) took only 3 months & 8 days to be ratified! Why? Simple! The people demanded it. That was in 1971...before computers, before e-mail, before cell phones, etc.
Of the 27 amendments to the Constitution, seven (7) took 1 year or less to become the law of the land...all because of public pressure.
I'm asking each addressee to forward this Email to a minimum of twenty people on their Address list; in turn ask each of those to do likewise.
In three days, most people in The United States of America will have the message. This is one proposal that really should be passed around.
Proposed 28th Amendment to the United States Constitution:
"Congress shall make no law that applies to the citizens of the United States that does not apply equally to the Senators and/or Representatives; and, Congress shall make no law that applies to the Senators and/or Representatives that does not apply equally to the citizens of the United States ."
Monday, November 8, 2010
What CARING Means, REAL LEADERSHIP!
Sharing something from my past that is a good leadership lesson: Real leaders understand their presence, approachability and personality quirks!
We all have them, and they could affect how people (your team/followers) relate and see you. Let me share my story: In my last assignment in the military, as an Army Major, I showed up in Germany to take a command position. In my first meeting with my commander, he immediately revealed this about himself,
I realize people see me as appearing serious, irritated and even mad. He went on to explain that he knew that's how he appeared to folks.
He went on, I discovered this a long while back and try to share with all I work with and who are around me. I recognize that I give this impression, but I am just always thinking and tend to scowl, and so I come across that way. Do not let it keep you from approaching me, communicating, bringing me problems....that's just me.
Here was a leader who knew himself and was telling me this to ensure I understood this, trusted and would approach him! A side note, he was totally right, he was a big burly bald dude who came across intimidating and yes even mad. He was in fact, a teddy-bear kind-hearted soul and we became tremendous friends; socializing as well as working together very effectively.
Great lesson, hope it helps YOU. Are you a leader that has people avoiding you? Are you a follower with a leader that you may be perceiving wrong? Either way, some communication with those around might help huh?
BOOKER, about the workplace!
We all have them, and they could affect how people (your team/followers) relate and see you. Let me share my story: In my last assignment in the military, as an Army Major, I showed up in Germany to take a command position. In my first meeting with my commander, he immediately revealed this about himself,
I realize people see me as appearing serious, irritated and even mad. He went on to explain that he knew that's how he appeared to folks.
He went on, I discovered this a long while back and try to share with all I work with and who are around me. I recognize that I give this impression, but I am just always thinking and tend to scowl, and so I come across that way. Do not let it keep you from approaching me, communicating, bringing me problems....that's just me.
Here was a leader who knew himself and was telling me this to ensure I understood this, trusted and would approach him! A side note, he was totally right, he was a big burly bald dude who came across intimidating and yes even mad. He was in fact, a teddy-bear kind-hearted soul and we became tremendous friends; socializing as well as working together very effectively.
Great lesson, hope it helps YOU. Are you a leader that has people avoiding you? Are you a follower with a leader that you may be perceiving wrong? Either way, some communication with those around might help huh?
BOOKER, about the workplace!
Saturday, November 6, 2010
When life is at its VERY BEST, I am focused outside of ME!
Several things have brought this to light lately – some things that made me go mmmmm:
• The absolute worst times in my life have been when I was focused inwardly. My self worth seems best (seems weird) when I am/can be focused on other’s troubles.
• The company or customer service agent sharing his/her excuses and troubles vs taking care of the customer?
• This is the essence of Servant Leadership huh?
• How easy it is to focus on others when we are in the JUDGING mode. We are soooooo much better at judging others than ourselves huh?
• Heard a parenting radio show about how some of the latest thinking on kids about constant praising, all good, building self-esteem can actually be a very damaging thing. Teaches that everything is about YOU!
• Reminds me of my days as a military commander and how it was a principle when we were eating a meal out in the field - the soldiers ate first.
• When we solve a relationship issue/conflict with someone, life is good and unstressed again. Leaders facilitating the resolution of a conflict between two people have done a great thing.
• Our society, workforce, work ethic and just generally people working together is challenged these days because of a real focus on self…it’s all about me’ generation??!
• It’s a mindset of thinking of others before self: When the elevator opens do we rush in or wait for others to come out? When we are in a discussion, conflict or argument, do we listen first?
• Before you as a leader make a decision, do you see what they think first?
• When we/employees are focused on the team’s troubles, we are much more satisfied, motivated and have a sense of belonging.
• Touches on that THROWING STARFISH story, about the person wandering the beach finding starfish and throwing them back in the sea before they die. Someone challenges how they can’t make a difference. Thrower responds with, as another one is thrown back, how it will indeed make a difference to THIS ONE.
• Oh yeah, here’s one: Jesus served us and died for us!
• Involving others in my doing, thinking, solving or working through something gives us comfort (and a better answer typically).
• Serving and giving are sure to be a big part of the coming holidays huh?
• MATTHEW 15:12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends,….I no longer call you servants because a servant doesn’t know his masters business. Instead I call you friends. Everything I learned from my Father I have made known to you…
• The absolute worst times in my life have been when I was focused inwardly. My self worth seems best (seems weird) when I am/can be focused on other’s troubles.
• The company or customer service agent sharing his/her excuses and troubles vs taking care of the customer?
• This is the essence of Servant Leadership huh?
• How easy it is to focus on others when we are in the JUDGING mode. We are soooooo much better at judging others than ourselves huh?
• Heard a parenting radio show about how some of the latest thinking on kids about constant praising, all good, building self-esteem can actually be a very damaging thing. Teaches that everything is about YOU!
• Reminds me of my days as a military commander and how it was a principle when we were eating a meal out in the field - the soldiers ate first.
• When we solve a relationship issue/conflict with someone, life is good and unstressed again. Leaders facilitating the resolution of a conflict between two people have done a great thing.
• Our society, workforce, work ethic and just generally people working together is challenged these days because of a real focus on self…it’s all about me’ generation??!
• It’s a mindset of thinking of others before self: When the elevator opens do we rush in or wait for others to come out? When we are in a discussion, conflict or argument, do we listen first?
• Before you as a leader make a decision, do you see what they think first?
• When we/employees are focused on the team’s troubles, we are much more satisfied, motivated and have a sense of belonging.
• Touches on that THROWING STARFISH story, about the person wandering the beach finding starfish and throwing them back in the sea before they die. Someone challenges how they can’t make a difference. Thrower responds with, as another one is thrown back, how it will indeed make a difference to THIS ONE.
• Oh yeah, here’s one: Jesus served us and died for us!
• Involving others in my doing, thinking, solving or working through something gives us comfort (and a better answer typically).
• Serving and giving are sure to be a big part of the coming holidays huh?
• MATTHEW 15:12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends,….I no longer call you servants because a servant doesn’t know his masters business. Instead I call you friends. Everything I learned from my Father I have made known to you…
Friday, October 22, 2010
Is your business ready for good times again?
Business & the economy most definitely WILL come back, heard on Dave Ramseys (Christian Personal Finance/Get out of Debt) radio show the other day.
Leadership is hugely needed in the business/workplace; earning back respect, etc. Paraphrased words of Daves, a topic of which I have been speaking of lately as well.
Dave is someone I referenced in my first book, in addressing this Q&A: Where do managers get leadership learning?
Answer: Advice from friends and family? Yikes, thats nuts.
As Dave says, How illogical it is to get financial advice from people in your life (family, friends, etc) who are up to their ears in debt?
As business comes back, are you the ownership, your business, and/or your managers ready to lead?
Very likely bad leadership/management practices and behaviors (how people have been treated over past few years) have caused people to sour on their organization! When times are tough, jobs are limited; people will tolerate very ineffective management/leadership. After all, when I (the employee) need the job, am I going to be complaining about my boss?
The point here is that organizations and management better be prepared when people CAN complain again; when there are jobs again or they just begin to think about leaving because of how badly they feel they have been treated? Will you or your organizations managers have an understanding of all this and know how to provide the effective leadership that will be required?
Just some food for thought! Holler if I can help :)
Gods best, BOOKER
www.bookertraining.com
Leadership is hugely needed in the business/workplace; earning back respect, etc. Paraphrased words of Daves, a topic of which I have been speaking of lately as well.
Dave is someone I referenced in my first book, in addressing this Q&A: Where do managers get leadership learning?
Answer: Advice from friends and family? Yikes, thats nuts.
As Dave says, How illogical it is to get financial advice from people in your life (family, friends, etc) who are up to their ears in debt?
As business comes back, are you the ownership, your business, and/or your managers ready to lead?
Very likely bad leadership/management practices and behaviors (how people have been treated over past few years) have caused people to sour on their organization! When times are tough, jobs are limited; people will tolerate very ineffective management/leadership. After all, when I (the employee) need the job, am I going to be complaining about my boss?
The point here is that organizations and management better be prepared when people CAN complain again; when there are jobs again or they just begin to think about leaving because of how badly they feel they have been treated? Will you or your organizations managers have an understanding of all this and know how to provide the effective leadership that will be required?
Just some food for thought! Holler if I can help :)
Gods best, BOOKER
www.bookertraining.com
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
JOB, Finance?
Financial managers wanted in the United States for a major intercontinental seafood supplier and exporter.
The position requires:
- Higher education (optional)
- Over 25 years of age
- Precision
- Ability to work under pressure deliver work on time.
- Ability to work with Word and Excel applications
- Software and hardware necessary to work via the web
Position's obligations:
- Dealing with money orders our enterprise receives from clients
- Organize and keep records of numbers on handled transactions
- Produce precise reviews
We promise:
- work at a large company
- promotion opportunities - fair wages (2150 after a 1 month trial period)
- additional 5% bonus in case of a completed operation
- Flexible working hours and time control possible
- The employer pays for all the expenses connected to bank services
............don't know anything further but will give you some contact info I have if you send me an email doug@bookertraining.com
The position requires:
- Higher education (optional)
- Over 25 years of age
- Precision
- Ability to work under pressure deliver work on time.
- Ability to work with Word and Excel applications
- Software and hardware necessary to work via the web
Position's obligations:
- Dealing with money orders our enterprise receives from clients
- Organize and keep records of numbers on handled transactions
- Produce precise reviews
We promise:
- work at a large company
- promotion opportunities - fair wages (2150 after a 1 month trial period)
- additional 5% bonus in case of a completed operation
- Flexible working hours and time control possible
- The employer pays for all the expenses connected to bank services
............don't know anything further but will give you some contact info I have if you send me an email doug@bookertraining.com
Friday, October 8, 2010
Personal & Professional Learning from 'James'
Two great scriptures hit me reading this morning; 1) so much about what I am doing professionally with a business team/conflict situation and 2) the other so close to my own situation personally.
On the business side, a team/dept I am consulting with is struggling and I plan to share this in our next gathering. Fortunately this is a business I am working with that Faith/God are part of the equation:
"... Don't speak evil against each other brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, then you are criticizing and judging God's law. Your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you. God alone is the judge. ...so what right do you have to judge your neighbors?..." JAMES 4:11
Personally, my wife and I are in a process of selling our home, potentially moving, discussing of options, etc. This so connects to our situation:
"...Look here you who say, 'we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do this or that, do business there and make a profit'. How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog - here a little while and then it's gone. What you ought to say is, 'If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that...." JAMES 4:13
Wow, some powerful messages there for all of us, huh? WORK WELL WITH OTHERS.... WE ARE NOT IN CONTROL, HE IS..... Wow. Have a great day, BOOKER
On the business side, a team/dept I am consulting with is struggling and I plan to share this in our next gathering. Fortunately this is a business I am working with that Faith/God are part of the equation:
"... Don't speak evil against each other brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, then you are criticizing and judging God's law. Your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you. God alone is the judge. ...so what right do you have to judge your neighbors?..." JAMES 4:11
Personally, my wife and I are in a process of selling our home, potentially moving, discussing of options, etc. This so connects to our situation:
"...Look here you who say, 'we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do this or that, do business there and make a profit'. How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog - here a little while and then it's gone. What you ought to say is, 'If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that...." JAMES 4:13
Wow, some powerful messages there for all of us, huh? WORK WELL WITH OTHERS.... WE ARE NOT IN CONTROL, HE IS..... Wow. Have a great day, BOOKER
Thursday, September 30, 2010
LEADERS VALUING
[a piece being worked on for upcoming book]:
Think about the phrase, PEOPLE, OUR MOST VALUABLE RESOURCE. Seen that or heard that somewhere before? For many years it has been a popular slogan, motto or marketing used by companies to make their people believe that they are considered important. First off, organizations don't make this belief a reality, every individual leader does......or doesn't.
Rarely does it really play out in the WALK, it’s just TALK…many employees tell me this. You're thinking the same thing right now aren’t you; about your current job or recent situation or organization where you worked?
In fact, this is probably the resource that is the most UNDER-valued. Consider for a moment, all the other resources within your organization…time, money, inventory, machinery, facilities, etc. Think how much effort is put into managing these other resources - doing preventive maintenance, planning and organizing, fixing, repairing, replacing, etc.
Organizations tend to be pretty proactive regarding other resources; however when it comes to people, it is pretty much all reactive.
We do spend time on people - reacting to people problems: behaviors, performance issues, conflicts, problems, lack of team skills, leadership ineffectiveness, relations on the team and between depts, etc.
The PEOPLE-SYSTEM (the culture, teamwork, leadership, relationships, management, morale, baggage, history, attitude, promotion, succession…) receives the least amount of effort on the front end typically.
Here’s a really important question for the leader to reflect upon: Do you REALLY value him/her/them? Do you feel like each one of your folks is just as important as the others? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm?
Hope you are feeling valued. Have a blessed day, BOOKER
Think about the phrase, PEOPLE, OUR MOST VALUABLE RESOURCE. Seen that or heard that somewhere before? For many years it has been a popular slogan, motto or marketing used by companies to make their people believe that they are considered important. First off, organizations don't make this belief a reality, every individual leader does......or doesn't.
Rarely does it really play out in the WALK, it’s just TALK…many employees tell me this. You're thinking the same thing right now aren’t you; about your current job or recent situation or organization where you worked?
In fact, this is probably the resource that is the most UNDER-valued. Consider for a moment, all the other resources within your organization…time, money, inventory, machinery, facilities, etc. Think how much effort is put into managing these other resources - doing preventive maintenance, planning and organizing, fixing, repairing, replacing, etc.
Organizations tend to be pretty proactive regarding other resources; however when it comes to people, it is pretty much all reactive.
We do spend time on people - reacting to people problems: behaviors, performance issues, conflicts, problems, lack of team skills, leadership ineffectiveness, relations on the team and between depts, etc.
The PEOPLE-SYSTEM (the culture, teamwork, leadership, relationships, management, morale, baggage, history, attitude, promotion, succession…) receives the least amount of effort on the front end typically.
Here’s a really important question for the leader to reflect upon: Do you REALLY value him/her/them? Do you feel like each one of your folks is just as important as the others? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm?
Hope you are feeling valued. Have a blessed day, BOOKER
not a blog, just sharing TEACHING/PRAYING
NOMINEE FOR "E-MAIL OF THE YEAR"!!!...don't know who gets credit for it, just passing on...
After being interviewed by the school administration, the prospective teacher said: 'Let me see if I've got this right. 'You want me to go into that room with all those kids, correct their disruptive behavior, observe them for signs of abuse, monitor their dress habits, censor their T-shirt messages, and instill in them a love for learning.
'You want me to check their backpacks for weapons, wage war on drugs and sexually transmitted diseases, and raise their sense of self esteem and personal pride... 'You want me to teach them patriotism and good citizenship, sportsmanship and fair play, and how to register to vote, balance a checkbook, and apply for a job.
'You want me to check their heads for lice, recognize signs of antisocial behavior, and make sure that they all pass the final exams. 'You also want me to provide them with an equal education
regardless of their handicaps, and communicate regularly with their parents in English, Spanish or any other language, by letter, telephone, newsletter, and report card.
'You want me to do all this with a piece of chalk, a blackboard, a bulletin board, a few books, a big smile, and a starting salary that qualifies me for food stamps.
'You want me to do all this and then you tell me... I CAN'T PRAY?'
WOW, am I glad I am in adult education :))
After being interviewed by the school administration, the prospective teacher said: 'Let me see if I've got this right. 'You want me to go into that room with all those kids, correct their disruptive behavior, observe them for signs of abuse, monitor their dress habits, censor their T-shirt messages, and instill in them a love for learning.
'You want me to check their backpacks for weapons, wage war on drugs and sexually transmitted diseases, and raise their sense of self esteem and personal pride... 'You want me to teach them patriotism and good citizenship, sportsmanship and fair play, and how to register to vote, balance a checkbook, and apply for a job.
'You want me to check their heads for lice, recognize signs of antisocial behavior, and make sure that they all pass the final exams. 'You also want me to provide them with an equal education
regardless of their handicaps, and communicate regularly with their parents in English, Spanish or any other language, by letter, telephone, newsletter, and report card.
'You want me to do all this with a piece of chalk, a blackboard, a bulletin board, a few books, a big smile, and a starting salary that qualifies me for food stamps.
'You want me to do all this and then you tell me... I CAN'T PRAY?'
WOW, am I glad I am in adult education :))
Monday, September 20, 2010
Leadership / Spiritual WISDOM
Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding PROVERBS 3:13
He who loves discipline loves knowledge, he who hates correction is stupid PROVERBS 12: 1
What is wisdom anyway? As I think of it in regard to leadership, I am sure most of management believes it to be centered on how the product(s) is made or how we provide our service(s). Since there are many in management who know the product/service, but still struggle does not it have to be something more?
Is it really about that technical/operational know-how, or could it be something different? I believe it is undoubtedly about ALL of it: the knowledge of the business, people skills, human behavior/nature, process/systems-thinking, group dynamics and even some organizational behavior/development thrown in. If I knew much about all that and practiced it in my role as a leader, I would likely have to be a pretty wise leader, huh?
Whatever it is, it can be a double-edged sword. You see, leaders frequently believe they are there, they have arrived; and therefore they must know it all (or at least more than those they lead). If that is so, how do I use that wisdom? Do I share it, teach it to others, keep it to myself, or just use it to make all the decisions myself?
* I always have to be careful here in challenging management/managers. It is not about anyone being bad, but just about bad management (leadership).
The scriptures above encourage us to find and discover wisdom, maybe above anything else. Again, I ask you to consider here, what is leadership wisdom; what do leaders need to know?
Along with our own understanding, opinions and beliefs in this matter, we should seek the input of others around us. We should work on our leadership competencies and ask others to help us with this learning and growing. We need to be OK with it (them) when they do correct us, challenge us or point out where we are falling short. Wisdom would tell us that old phrase, two heads are better than one- is a truism. A lack of wisdom would cause the leader to not ask other opinions or not involve the team.
Enough said for now. Ponder it and maybe keep in mind this which was shared by my Pastor (regarding being open to change): A grave is much like a rut, only with the ends kicked out.
Use some wisdom here and be open to what that analogy says.
Gods best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
He who loves discipline loves knowledge, he who hates correction is stupid PROVERBS 12: 1
What is wisdom anyway? As I think of it in regard to leadership, I am sure most of management believes it to be centered on how the product(s) is made or how we provide our service(s). Since there are many in management who know the product/service, but still struggle does not it have to be something more?
Is it really about that technical/operational know-how, or could it be something different? I believe it is undoubtedly about ALL of it: the knowledge of the business, people skills, human behavior/nature, process/systems-thinking, group dynamics and even some organizational behavior/development thrown in. If I knew much about all that and practiced it in my role as a leader, I would likely have to be a pretty wise leader, huh?
Whatever it is, it can be a double-edged sword. You see, leaders frequently believe they are there, they have arrived; and therefore they must know it all (or at least more than those they lead). If that is so, how do I use that wisdom? Do I share it, teach it to others, keep it to myself, or just use it to make all the decisions myself?
* I always have to be careful here in challenging management/managers. It is not about anyone being bad, but just about bad management (leadership).
The scriptures above encourage us to find and discover wisdom, maybe above anything else. Again, I ask you to consider here, what is leadership wisdom; what do leaders need to know?
Along with our own understanding, opinions and beliefs in this matter, we should seek the input of others around us. We should work on our leadership competencies and ask others to help us with this learning and growing. We need to be OK with it (them) when they do correct us, challenge us or point out where we are falling short. Wisdom would tell us that old phrase, two heads are better than one- is a truism. A lack of wisdom would cause the leader to not ask other opinions or not involve the team.
Enough said for now. Ponder it and maybe keep in mind this which was shared by my Pastor (regarding being open to change): A grave is much like a rut, only with the ends kicked out.
Use some wisdom here and be open to what that analogy says.
Gods best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Message to the Wrong Person
Who’s the message for anyway..?..!
Here’s a dynamic that I run into all the time in trying to help teams, groups, departments and/or organizations develop improved working relationships and partnerships… Please read this through carefully a couple of times, because it’s relevant to everyone of us—we’ve all seen it…done it…and had it ‘done’ to us as well! This goes on all the time, but if your team can get hold of this one…enormous strides can be made toward increased teamwork, trust, less conflict, more productivity and improved relationships all the way around.
Is it just part of human nature and inevitably going to be there?… probably, if that’s what you think and you’re teammates think!!! IT WON’T BE EASY, BUT IMPROVEMENT IS POSSIBLE…it simply takes realization of the negative impact and a commitment by the team to change it.
Let’s get a little more specific--as a facilitator, I see this within groups and get caught up in it myself—let me explain how we do this to each other and the damage that if inflicts. Situation: You have a problem with someone (what they said, what you thought they said, their opinion, something they did that impacted your world, etc…get the picture?) What do we typically do when this occurs? We go share it with someone else—a peer, a boss, everyone except the person who really needs to hear it! Starting to connect aren’t you… ? Teammates (employees within the same office-under the same leader) frequently will even take it straight to the leader to deal with. Think of the impact and fallout of doing things this way -- first of all the person you are taking it to can do nothing but listen to you bellyache….what are you expecting them to do with it? If they go do something with it, then they have broken your trust!?! If you allow them (or push them to do it for you) all you are going to do is lose respect and your relationship with that individual.
Teams that are ready to fix this dynamic have to honestly sit down, look each other in the eye and say we all have our gripes with each other for good reason, but why don’t we agree to start doing things in the right way in the right spirit…? After all, if you tell me what your issue is or what you don’t like that I did or whatever, haven’t you actually done something positive regarding our relationship and the team overall? But we tend to take confrontation and disagreement as world-shattering stuff instead of the good that is to be gained. If we can manage to do it in a respectful, tactful and non-confrontational way…it can drastically improve a team in ways we cannot even imagine.
As a facilitator and trainer, I frequently have this very same thing happen to me. Here is how if affects me personally in this role: After I have worked with a team for some period, I begin to see myself as one of the team. It never fails, that eventually someone will take issue with how I am performing or maybe an opinion that I express (as if I do not have a right to my opinion also, huh? ). Instead of taking issue with me and tossing it out there for the good of our relationship…the person shuts down, creating a barrier to any further learning or communicating on that person’s part…and then later, takes it to someone that wasn’t even there!!! What I just described here, that happens to me is the very thing that people do to each other all the time. It tears down relationships, discourages communication, kills trust and makes life miserable for all around the issue. Not to mention all the wasted time that these kind of things end up taking,……because we took it through a cycle and circle of ‘the wrong people.
AS LEADERS, MENTORS AND TEAM MEMBERS, WE CAN HELP OTHERS BY STEERING THEM IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION (AFTER A FEW MOMENTS OF EMPATHETIC LISTENING OF COURSE). AND HOPE THEY WILL HAVE THE INSIGHT AND COURAGE TO RETURN THE FAVOR WHEN YOU COME CALLING!?!
Take care, DOUG
Here’s a dynamic that I run into all the time in trying to help teams, groups, departments and/or organizations develop improved working relationships and partnerships… Please read this through carefully a couple of times, because it’s relevant to everyone of us—we’ve all seen it…done it…and had it ‘done’ to us as well! This goes on all the time, but if your team can get hold of this one…enormous strides can be made toward increased teamwork, trust, less conflict, more productivity and improved relationships all the way around.
Is it just part of human nature and inevitably going to be there?… probably, if that’s what you think and you’re teammates think!!! IT WON’T BE EASY, BUT IMPROVEMENT IS POSSIBLE…it simply takes realization of the negative impact and a commitment by the team to change it.
Let’s get a little more specific--as a facilitator, I see this within groups and get caught up in it myself—let me explain how we do this to each other and the damage that if inflicts. Situation: You have a problem with someone (what they said, what you thought they said, their opinion, something they did that impacted your world, etc…get the picture?) What do we typically do when this occurs? We go share it with someone else—a peer, a boss, everyone except the person who really needs to hear it! Starting to connect aren’t you… ? Teammates (employees within the same office-under the same leader) frequently will even take it straight to the leader to deal with. Think of the impact and fallout of doing things this way -- first of all the person you are taking it to can do nothing but listen to you bellyache….what are you expecting them to do with it? If they go do something with it, then they have broken your trust!?! If you allow them (or push them to do it for you) all you are going to do is lose respect and your relationship with that individual.
Teams that are ready to fix this dynamic have to honestly sit down, look each other in the eye and say we all have our gripes with each other for good reason, but why don’t we agree to start doing things in the right way in the right spirit…? After all, if you tell me what your issue is or what you don’t like that I did or whatever, haven’t you actually done something positive regarding our relationship and the team overall? But we tend to take confrontation and disagreement as world-shattering stuff instead of the good that is to be gained. If we can manage to do it in a respectful, tactful and non-confrontational way…it can drastically improve a team in ways we cannot even imagine.
As a facilitator and trainer, I frequently have this very same thing happen to me. Here is how if affects me personally in this role: After I have worked with a team for some period, I begin to see myself as one of the team. It never fails, that eventually someone will take issue with how I am performing or maybe an opinion that I express (as if I do not have a right to my opinion also, huh? ). Instead of taking issue with me and tossing it out there for the good of our relationship…the person shuts down, creating a barrier to any further learning or communicating on that person’s part…and then later, takes it to someone that wasn’t even there!!! What I just described here, that happens to me is the very thing that people do to each other all the time. It tears down relationships, discourages communication, kills trust and makes life miserable for all around the issue. Not to mention all the wasted time that these kind of things end up taking,……because we took it through a cycle and circle of ‘the wrong people.
AS LEADERS, MENTORS AND TEAM MEMBERS, WE CAN HELP OTHERS BY STEERING THEM IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION (AFTER A FEW MOMENTS OF EMPATHETIC LISTENING OF COURSE). AND HOPE THEY WILL HAVE THE INSIGHT AND COURAGE TO RETURN THE FAVOR WHEN YOU COME CALLING!?!
Take care, DOUG
Monday, August 16, 2010
GODLY LEADER MOMENT #4 (Boss and Buddy)
…Now before the feast of the Passover, when Jesus knew that his hour was come that he should depart out of this world unto the Father, having loved his own which were in the world, he loved them unto the end… JOHN 13:1
…Don’t get too close,…there’s a fine line between you & your people, …keep your distance, …you can’t be a friend & a boss, etc… These are commonly spoken and widely accepted management myths heard when people speak of the workplace and a manager’s relationship with their people. Managers say those things and maintain the status quo. Leaders know it is just management-thinking; and therefore grow, build & improve these relationships! Leaders know their success depends on the quality of these relationships.
Because so many people have seen this fine line-concept caused by manager’s abusing their authority and position, it has come to be accepted in management circles. It is found in management-theory courses and most anyplace you see management taught. Not HERE my friend; I don’t buy it for a second – I’m teaching LEADERSHIP & RELATIONSHIP! I believe this mentality comes from managers who practiced favoritism, abused their roles, not holding all equally accountable, taking advantage of people, promoting on friendship, etc.
If you are a leader or trying to become one, realize this – your success is going to come from them (your people). What kind of leader would YOU perform for the best? What leader have YOU worked for the most effectively? Of course the answer is the one you had the best relationship with, right? We speak of the importance of relationships among team-members and how dysfunctional teams are when relationships aren’t good; but the leader needs to keep his/her distance?!? This dynamic frequently comes up in Leadership Development coaching, consulting and training. My response is consistently, …don’t fall into that way of thinking; work on developing relationships with your folks as tight as possible... When you create comfort, trust, respect, great communications and a desire for people to want to be there with YOU and the others……great things happen. The result is awesome productivity, loyalty, low turnover and believe it or not, people looking forward to coming to work. When the leader cares about his/her folks, is there for them outside their job; wants to support and help them with troubles; and even socializes with them AFTER work, etc – now we have a great family-like relationship.
Now of course, there can be issues and risks, but not if YOU the leader do things right! If fair expectations and accountability happen with everyone, these issues don’t exist! The problem is NOT about this buddy & boss concept & debate,….it’s about YOU the leader, and your leadership! I have indeed worked with and coached great leaders who would not go there as I am describing! They maintained this ‘fine line’ and wouldn’t let the relationship exist outside the workplace. It’s just my opinion they were limiting themselves & the potential of this relationship.
Jesus broke bread and spent countless hours teaching, socializing & continuously improving the relationships with those he led. The Word speaks to developing a personal relationship with Him. Shouldn’t the ULTIMATE LEADER’s leadership be our guide?
God’s best to you my buddy AND friend, BOOKER
…Don’t get too close,…there’s a fine line between you & your people, …keep your distance, …you can’t be a friend & a boss, etc… These are commonly spoken and widely accepted management myths heard when people speak of the workplace and a manager’s relationship with their people. Managers say those things and maintain the status quo. Leaders know it is just management-thinking; and therefore grow, build & improve these relationships! Leaders know their success depends on the quality of these relationships.
Because so many people have seen this fine line-concept caused by manager’s abusing their authority and position, it has come to be accepted in management circles. It is found in management-theory courses and most anyplace you see management taught. Not HERE my friend; I don’t buy it for a second – I’m teaching LEADERSHIP & RELATIONSHIP! I believe this mentality comes from managers who practiced favoritism, abused their roles, not holding all equally accountable, taking advantage of people, promoting on friendship, etc.
If you are a leader or trying to become one, realize this – your success is going to come from them (your people). What kind of leader would YOU perform for the best? What leader have YOU worked for the most effectively? Of course the answer is the one you had the best relationship with, right? We speak of the importance of relationships among team-members and how dysfunctional teams are when relationships aren’t good; but the leader needs to keep his/her distance?!? This dynamic frequently comes up in Leadership Development coaching, consulting and training. My response is consistently, …don’t fall into that way of thinking; work on developing relationships with your folks as tight as possible... When you create comfort, trust, respect, great communications and a desire for people to want to be there with YOU and the others……great things happen. The result is awesome productivity, loyalty, low turnover and believe it or not, people looking forward to coming to work. When the leader cares about his/her folks, is there for them outside their job; wants to support and help them with troubles; and even socializes with them AFTER work, etc – now we have a great family-like relationship.
Now of course, there can be issues and risks, but not if YOU the leader do things right! If fair expectations and accountability happen with everyone, these issues don’t exist! The problem is NOT about this buddy & boss concept & debate,….it’s about YOU the leader, and your leadership! I have indeed worked with and coached great leaders who would not go there as I am describing! They maintained this ‘fine line’ and wouldn’t let the relationship exist outside the workplace. It’s just my opinion they were limiting themselves & the potential of this relationship.
Jesus broke bread and spent countless hours teaching, socializing & continuously improving the relationships with those he led. The Word speaks to developing a personal relationship with Him. Shouldn’t the ULTIMATE LEADER’s leadership be our guide?
God’s best to you my buddy AND friend, BOOKER
Friday, August 6, 2010
A FOLLOWER'S PERSPECTIVE OF BOSSES
During discussions on leadership, teamwork, organizational life, culture, etcetera….nearly all people in the workplace think and feel according to how they are led and/or managed. More often than not, initial emotions, thinkings and feelings expressed come flowing out from the perspective of ‘ourselves’ - the follower. This is true, even in discussions with supervisors, managers and even senior management personnel. This is likely because our predominant thought-patterns are based on ourselves as followers first and foremost. 99% of us report to someone else, no matter our current status, position or role. As people consider issues of ineffectiveness by management (leadership), the first thoughts and ideas out of their mouths are from their ‘dissatisfied-follower’ role. That is because those are highly charged thoughts regarding how they are being treated, cared for, communicated with and bottom line – led, or not led as the case may be.
This may not be the most all-inclusive and perfect list, however I would surmise that if any leader routinely led according to these factors, they would be one perfect leader in most follower’s eyes! Here are the Top 10, as expressed by people in all kinds of organizations serving in all kinds of different capacities. Interestingly, the vast majority of these observations, complaints, wants and needs are mostly from management folks themselves, ……..think about the significance of what that says for a moment! The words of a follower:
1. I WANT my boss to support me, shield me and care about me-not just care about what I can do. Feedback would be nice every now and then also…
2. I WISH my boss would deal with that one person that makes everybody else miserable. That one ‘bad apple’ is just allowed to do what he wants, because they are afraid of him, or think that we can’t live without him, what a joke.
3. I WANT to be involved early on regarding impending changes, new ideas, solutions to problems… When I am not involved, I just start not caring about how well things are done, get an attitude and become very apathetic. My motivation is shot…
4. I NEED the opportunity to develop myself, be taught new skills, have the opportunity to be promoted, or maybe just be recognized for what I do now.
5. I WISH things were done fairly, no matter who knows who, or who the boss likes at the moment…
6. I WISH I could be communicated with on what is going on, not just what she thinks I need to know. I find more out more from co-workers than I do from above…
7. I WANT conflict to be dealt with fairly, quickly, … When people are in conflict, it is just allowed to fester, drive everyone else crazy and puts everyone on edge…
8. I WISH we would take the time to do things right. We rush through everything; like when someone new is hired, we just give them a few minutes of training and throw them into the routine. We barely even introduce them, and for sure we are setting them up for failure, because of poor training. Team-building is basically non-existent…
9. I NEED my boss to provide me the resources I need to do my job well.
10. I WISH I was more challenged, maybe even get the boss to delegate some things to me. She is afraid to let anyone else do anything for fear of her own job, or maybe she just doesn’t trust anyone. How will we ever get any better?
These as well as others, are what is required for me to flourish, grow, learn and become more and more productive and useful to ME, to YOU, to the ORGANIZATION. Maybe the question is, are you OK with me becoming you…., are you modeling the right stuff? Take care, DOUG
This may not be the most all-inclusive and perfect list, however I would surmise that if any leader routinely led according to these factors, they would be one perfect leader in most follower’s eyes! Here are the Top 10, as expressed by people in all kinds of organizations serving in all kinds of different capacities. Interestingly, the vast majority of these observations, complaints, wants and needs are mostly from management folks themselves, ……..think about the significance of what that says for a moment! The words of a follower:
1. I WANT my boss to support me, shield me and care about me-not just care about what I can do. Feedback would be nice every now and then also…
2. I WISH my boss would deal with that one person that makes everybody else miserable. That one ‘bad apple’ is just allowed to do what he wants, because they are afraid of him, or think that we can’t live without him, what a joke.
3. I WANT to be involved early on regarding impending changes, new ideas, solutions to problems… When I am not involved, I just start not caring about how well things are done, get an attitude and become very apathetic. My motivation is shot…
4. I NEED the opportunity to develop myself, be taught new skills, have the opportunity to be promoted, or maybe just be recognized for what I do now.
5. I WISH things were done fairly, no matter who knows who, or who the boss likes at the moment…
6. I WISH I could be communicated with on what is going on, not just what she thinks I need to know. I find more out more from co-workers than I do from above…
7. I WANT conflict to be dealt with fairly, quickly, … When people are in conflict, it is just allowed to fester, drive everyone else crazy and puts everyone on edge…
8. I WISH we would take the time to do things right. We rush through everything; like when someone new is hired, we just give them a few minutes of training and throw them into the routine. We barely even introduce them, and for sure we are setting them up for failure, because of poor training. Team-building is basically non-existent…
9. I NEED my boss to provide me the resources I need to do my job well.
10. I WISH I was more challenged, maybe even get the boss to delegate some things to me. She is afraid to let anyone else do anything for fear of her own job, or maybe she just doesn’t trust anyone. How will we ever get any better?
These as well as others, are what is required for me to flourish, grow, learn and become more and more productive and useful to ME, to YOU, to the ORGANIZATION. Maybe the question is, are you OK with me becoming you…., are you modeling the right stuff? Take care, DOUG
Monday, August 2, 2010
GODLY LEADER MOMENT#3, Insanity in Conflict
“…You have heard, ‘Love your neighbor, and hate your enemies’. But I tell you, ‘Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in Heaven. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Even the tax collectors do that; and if you greet only your brothers what are you doing better/more than others?…†MATTHEW 5:43
This scripture has particular significance to all of us in the workplace (as well as every part of our lives huh?) This reminds me of something I wrote a few years ago regarding working with ‘others’. The article focused on the challenge of working with those we don’t get along with - are in conflict with - or let’s just say the relationship is less than good! Loving those with whom we work can be tough but we are called to do so huh? Maybe HE would accept us just liking them and getting along with these others?
We all have these people in our lives from time to time; the challenge is to address them as quickly as possible to get that stress out of our lives. For me it is about the insanity of working side by side with this ‘bad relationship’ day after day after day after day (like that Groundhog Day movie). I believe we become numb to them and lose focus on just how much they are impacting us and those around us/them.
Leaders are REALLY needed in these situations. Yes, the personal leadership of solving these relationships in YOUR life, but also as a leader of those you manage & supervise in the workplace. He/she/they need you to get involved and facilitate real resolution. YOU are needed to get them out of this insanity, when they can’t/won’t by themselves. Leaders may not deal with conflict for some of the following reasons “…it is personal, not my business…they will work it out… I don’t know how to facilitate resolution… fear of taking sides or judging one over the other… I will just make it worse, or…I don’t have time to mess with it, etc…â€
The reality is that we must deal with these relationships - it is your (leader’s) job! For the record, it is ALWAYS your business! Why? ...because people in conflict, to some degree negatively impact productivity, communication, relationships, morale …need I say more? HOW you do it may seem challenging, however the first step is to be committed and persist in not letting them (conflicts, baggage and bad relations) exist on your team. That’s what you are paid the big bucks for, isn’t it?
OK, soooooooo how are you dealing with THOSE in your life right now personally? How good would it feel to have that relationship(s) solved? If you are like me, when THOSE get solved, it is like the weight of the world is off your shoulders and life is soooo much better. As you begin to hesitate or procrastinate about taking action with him/her, remember that HE (Matthew 5:43) directs us to do so. ïŠ
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
“…You have heard, ‘Love your neighbor, and hate your enemies’. But I tell you, ‘Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in Heaven. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Even the tax collectors do that; and if you greet only your brothers what are you doing better/more than others?…†MATTHEW 5:43
This scripture has particular significance to all of us in the workplace (as well as every part of our lives huh?) This reminds me of something I wrote a few years ago regarding working with ‘others’. The article focused on the challenge of working with those we don’t get along with - are in conflict with - or let’s just say the relationship is less than good! Loving those with whom we work can be tough but we are called to do so huh? Maybe HE would accept us just liking them and getting along with these others?
We all have these people in our lives from time to time; the challenge is to address them as quickly as possible to get that stress out of our lives. For me it is about the insanity of working side by side with this ‘bad relationship’ day after day after day after day (like that Groundhog Day movie). I believe we become numb to them and lose focus on just how much they are impacting us and those around us/them.
Leaders are REALLY needed in these situations. Yes, the personal leadership of solving these relationships in YOUR life, but also as a leader of those you manage & supervise in the workplace. He/she/they need you to get involved and facilitate real resolution. YOU are needed to get them out of this insanity, when they can’t/won’t by themselves. Leaders may not deal with conflict for some of the following reasons “…it is personal, not my business…they will work it out… I don’t know how to facilitate resolution… fear of taking sides or judging one over the other… I will just make it worse, or…I don’t have time to mess with it, etc…â€
The reality is that we must deal with these relationships - it is your (leader’s) job! For the record, it is ALWAYS your business! Why? ...because people in conflict, to some degree negatively impact productivity, communication, relationships, morale …need I say more? HOW you do it may seem challenging, however the first step is to be committed and persist in not letting them (conflicts, baggage and bad relations) exist on your team. That’s what you are paid the big bucks for, isn’t it?
OK, soooooooo how are you dealing with THOSE in your life right now personally? How good would it feel to have that relationship(s) solved? If you are like me, when THOSE get solved, it is like the weight of the world is off your shoulders and life is soooo much better. As you begin to hesitate or procrastinate about taking action with him/her, remember that HE (Matthew 5:43) directs us to do so. ïŠ
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
GODLY LEADER MOMENT#3 (Insanity of Conflict)
“…You have heard, ‘Love your neighbor, and hate your enemies’. But I tell you, ‘Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in Heaven. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Even the tax collectors do that; and if you greet only your brothers what are you doing better/more than others?…†MATTHEW 5:43
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This scripture has particular significance to all of us in the workplace (as well as every part of our lives huh?) This reminds me of something I wrote a few years ago regarding working with ‘others’. The article focused on the challenge of working with those we don’t get along with - are in conflict with - or let’s just say the relationship is less than good! Loving those with whom we work can be tough but we are called to do so huh? Maybe HE would accept us just liking them and getting along with these others?
We all have these people in our lives from time to time; the challenge is to address them as quickly as possible to get that stress out of our lives. For me it is about the insanity of working side by side with this ‘bad relationship’ day after day after day after day (like that Groundhog Day movie). I believe we become numb to them and lose focus on just how much they are impacting us and those around us/them.
Leaders are REALLY needed in these situations. Yes, the personal leadership of solving these relationships in YOUR life, but also as a leader of those you manage & supervise in the workplace. He/she/they need you to get involved and facilitate real resolution. YOU are needed to get them out of this insanity, when they can’t/won’t by themselves. Leaders may not deal with conflict for some of the following reasons “…it is personal, not my business…they will work it out… I don’t know how to facilitate resolution… fear of taking sides or judging one over the other… I will just make it worse, or…I don’t have time to mess with it, etc…â€
The reality is that we must deal with these relationships - it is your (leader’s) job! For the record, it is ALWAYS your business! Why? ...because people in conflict, to some degree negatively impact productivity, communication, relationships, morale …need I say more? HOW you do it may seem challenging, however the first step is to be committed and persist in not letting them (conflicts, baggage and bad relations) exist on your team. That’s what you are paid the big bucks for, isn’t it?
OK, soooooooo how are you dealing with THOSE in your life right now personally? How good would it feel to have that relationship(s) solved? If you are like me, when THOSE get solved, it is like the weight of the world is off your shoulders and life is soooo much better. As you begin to hesitate or procrastinate about taking action with him/her, remember that HE (Matthew 5:43) directs us to do so.
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
[want more, let me know / feel fee to share]
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This scripture has particular significance to all of us in the workplace (as well as every part of our lives huh?) This reminds me of something I wrote a few years ago regarding working with ‘others’. The article focused on the challenge of working with those we don’t get along with - are in conflict with - or let’s just say the relationship is less than good! Loving those with whom we work can be tough but we are called to do so huh? Maybe HE would accept us just liking them and getting along with these others?
We all have these people in our lives from time to time; the challenge is to address them as quickly as possible to get that stress out of our lives. For me it is about the insanity of working side by side with this ‘bad relationship’ day after day after day after day (like that Groundhog Day movie). I believe we become numb to them and lose focus on just how much they are impacting us and those around us/them.
Leaders are REALLY needed in these situations. Yes, the personal leadership of solving these relationships in YOUR life, but also as a leader of those you manage & supervise in the workplace. He/she/they need you to get involved and facilitate real resolution. YOU are needed to get them out of this insanity, when they can’t/won’t by themselves. Leaders may not deal with conflict for some of the following reasons “…it is personal, not my business…they will work it out… I don’t know how to facilitate resolution… fear of taking sides or judging one over the other… I will just make it worse, or…I don’t have time to mess with it, etc…â€
The reality is that we must deal with these relationships - it is your (leader’s) job! For the record, it is ALWAYS your business! Why? ...because people in conflict, to some degree negatively impact productivity, communication, relationships, morale …need I say more? HOW you do it may seem challenging, however the first step is to be committed and persist in not letting them (conflicts, baggage and bad relations) exist on your team. That’s what you are paid the big bucks for, isn’t it?
OK, soooooooo how are you dealing with THOSE in your life right now personally? How good would it feel to have that relationship(s) solved? If you are like me, when THOSE get solved, it is like the weight of the world is off your shoulders and life is soooo much better. As you begin to hesitate or procrastinate about taking action with him/her, remember that HE (Matthew 5:43) directs us to do so.
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
[want more, let me know / feel fee to share]
Thursday, July 29, 2010
bike ride east of Lexington, crossed paths with 4 people walking NY to LA! Doing a film on it http://ping.fm/2gyPQ
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
GODLY LEADER MOMENT (Do not Worry)
DO NOT WORRY Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?... O ye of little faith?... Your Heavenly Father knows what you need. Seek first His kingdom & righteousness and all these things will be given to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow MATTHEW 6:25-34
NOT WORRYING is a tough concept for all of us, no matter who you are! Leaders have to (and must) deal with this personally as well as for those they lead! In these challenging times with so much hopelessness, bad economy, people/friends losing jobs, organization struggling, oil spilling, disasters here and there, people being laid off, who or what is next? Will it be you, a loved one or some of those you lead? It is nearly a daily occurrence to hear from someone close in our lives who has been impacted; I heard from a good friend and executive just this morning that is now out of a job. Its everywhere, and were not supposed to worry?!? Indeed, this is one of the tougher biblical principles we are supposed to follow YIKES, no that is a DOUBLE YIKES.
As leaders we are really needed by those we lead. As much as we may want to focus & dwell on our own worries, stresses, etc .your folks need you & your leadership! A few points to share as I have been pondering this much lately:
Let them know you also have concerns personally as well as your concern for them. Be human and dont be afraid of letting them see it. When we let others IN, we build trust & strong relationships. Some believe this shows weakness as a leader .that is just wrong. The relationships in our lives makes these times much more palatable “ especially when one of those relationships is YOU, their boss! When we all get through these times (and we will unless we do not and things turn around - this trusting relationship you built WITH THEM will pay huge dividends.
Working relationships between co-workers can become very strained as individuals withdrawal, lack concentration, and/or lash out at others. Do not avoid it or try to pretend its not there. It is real and everyone feels it. Why not get it out for all to know and realize we are all dealing with it and we (the leader and the rest of the team) are there for each other. It needs to be be dealt with, exposed and curtailed before it gets out of hand. Although we can never be sure of our security (of our jobs) and those that we lead, we need to reassure our people as much as possible; & with the truth as we know it!
You may be thinking that you are not there to be a counselor, therapist or psychologist! I for one, totally disagree. REAL leaders are absolutely conscious and realize that their job is indeed all of these and more. It may not be in your job description, but trust me, the ones you lead know what they need from you; and again its all of those and more .
Gods best, BOOKER
NOT WORRYING is a tough concept for all of us, no matter who you are! Leaders have to (and must) deal with this personally as well as for those they lead! In these challenging times with so much hopelessness, bad economy, people/friends losing jobs, organization struggling, oil spilling, disasters here and there, people being laid off, who or what is next? Will it be you, a loved one or some of those you lead? It is nearly a daily occurrence to hear from someone close in our lives who has been impacted; I heard from a good friend and executive just this morning that is now out of a job. Its everywhere, and were not supposed to worry?!? Indeed, this is one of the tougher biblical principles we are supposed to follow YIKES, no that is a DOUBLE YIKES.
As leaders we are really needed by those we lead. As much as we may want to focus & dwell on our own worries, stresses, etc .your folks need you & your leadership! A few points to share as I have been pondering this much lately:
Let them know you also have concerns personally as well as your concern for them. Be human and dont be afraid of letting them see it. When we let others IN, we build trust & strong relationships. Some believe this shows weakness as a leader .that is just wrong. The relationships in our lives makes these times much more palatable “ especially when one of those relationships is YOU, their boss! When we all get through these times (and we will unless we do not and things turn around - this trusting relationship you built WITH THEM will pay huge dividends.
Working relationships between co-workers can become very strained as individuals withdrawal, lack concentration, and/or lash out at others. Do not avoid it or try to pretend its not there. It is real and everyone feels it. Why not get it out for all to know and realize we are all dealing with it and we (the leader and the rest of the team) are there for each other. It needs to be be dealt with, exposed and curtailed before it gets out of hand. Although we can never be sure of our security (of our jobs) and those that we lead, we need to reassure our people as much as possible; & with the truth as we know it!
You may be thinking that you are not there to be a counselor, therapist or psychologist! I for one, totally disagree. REAL leaders are absolutely conscious and realize that their job is indeed all of these and more. It may not be in your job description, but trust me, the ones you lead know what they need from you; and again its all of those and more .
Gods best, BOOKER
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
…When they saw Jesus having dinners with tax collectors and ‘sinners’, they asked his disciples “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors & ‘sinners’?†On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go & learn what this means….For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners and the sinners.." MATTHEW 9:11-13
There are so many messages within these scriptures for leaders, but allow me to focus on one I relate to and use in discussions with leaders. An assumption from my first book:
[ Both leaders and followers in the workplace and society have become accepting and numb to ineffective leadership. Most of us have accepted how non-productive, unenthusiastic, and ineffective we and those around us really are! We accept this insanity as just the way it is and has to be (poor relationships between individuals and departments, conflicts and bottlenecks, poor attitudes, bad apples and bad management). ]
The point I make here is regarding this ‘bad apples’ thought. There is this conscious or subconscious thinking on the part of many in leadership roles, that there just will always be those bad apples on any team. These bad apples might be viewed as the two or three folks on every team that have issues,… cause trouble,… they challenge YOU,,… don’t seem to be team-players,… the ones always in conflict,… or some other shortage of abilities and/or skills.
In looking back at the scripture, Jesus speaks of His role to teach or serve those who need leadership, healing or teaching! The righteous and/or healthy ones, those other members of your team are not who need your leadership - it’s the bad apples. Leaders tend to take credit for the ones who are healthy/play well on the team and use the ‘bad apple’ language to avoid their (the leader’s) job, their LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE!?!
As leaders, we likely have a high percentage of folks who are just fine with or without your leadership. Your responsibility and role on the team (if you are to be an effective leader vs just another manager maintaining status quo) is to teach, lead, grow, mentor and develop those sick ones…the bad apples. Managers & organizations often just view ‘bad apples’ as if they are unsalvageable and the only solution is to just get rid of them. While there is undoubtedly a small % that deserve this and need to be tossed out; the vast majority of those bad apples (in my humble opinion) can be led to become healthy productive team players.
Are you up for your LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE? Are you willing to have ‘dinners’ with the sick (the bad apples); teach and make them well? Jesus knew his purpose,…… do you, do we, and does organizational leadership?
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
There are so many messages within these scriptures for leaders, but allow me to focus on one I relate to and use in discussions with leaders. An assumption from my first book:
[ Both leaders and followers in the workplace and society have become accepting and numb to ineffective leadership. Most of us have accepted how non-productive, unenthusiastic, and ineffective we and those around us really are! We accept this insanity as just the way it is and has to be (poor relationships between individuals and departments, conflicts and bottlenecks, poor attitudes, bad apples and bad management). ]
The point I make here is regarding this ‘bad apples’ thought. There is this conscious or subconscious thinking on the part of many in leadership roles, that there just will always be those bad apples on any team. These bad apples might be viewed as the two or three folks on every team that have issues,… cause trouble,… they challenge YOU,,… don’t seem to be team-players,… the ones always in conflict,… or some other shortage of abilities and/or skills.
In looking back at the scripture, Jesus speaks of His role to teach or serve those who need leadership, healing or teaching! The righteous and/or healthy ones, those other members of your team are not who need your leadership - it’s the bad apples. Leaders tend to take credit for the ones who are healthy/play well on the team and use the ‘bad apple’ language to avoid their (the leader’s) job, their LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE!?!
As leaders, we likely have a high percentage of folks who are just fine with or without your leadership. Your responsibility and role on the team (if you are to be an effective leader vs just another manager maintaining status quo) is to teach, lead, grow, mentor and develop those sick ones…the bad apples. Managers & organizations often just view ‘bad apples’ as if they are unsalvageable and the only solution is to just get rid of them. While there is undoubtedly a small % that deserve this and need to be tossed out; the vast majority of those bad apples (in my humble opinion) can be led to become healthy productive team players.
Are you up for your LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE? Are you willing to have ‘dinners’ with the sick (the bad apples); teach and make them well? Jesus knew his purpose,…… do you, do we, and does organizational leadership?
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
A GODLY Leadership Moment
…When they saw Jesus having dinners with tax collectors and ‘sinners’, they asked his disciples “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors & ‘sinners’?†On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go & learn what this means….For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners..." MATTHEW 9:11-13
There are so many messages within these scriptures for leaders, but allow me to focus on one I relate to and use in discussions with leaders. An assumption from my first book:
[ Both leaders and followers in the workplace and society have become accepting and numb to ineffective leadership. Most of us have accepted how non-productive, unenthusiastic, and ineffective we and those around us really are! We accept this insanity as just the way it is and has to be (poor relationships between individuals and departments, conflicts and bottlenecks, poor attitudes, bad apples and bad management). ]
The point I make here is regarding this ‘bad apples’ thought. There is this conscious or subconscious thinking on the part of many in leadership roles, that there just will always be those bad apples on any team. These bad apples might be viewed as the two or three folks on every team that have issues,… cause trouble,… they challenge YOU,,… don’t seem to be team-players,… the ones always in conflict,… or some other shortage of abilities and/or skills.
In looking back at the scripture, Jesus speaks of His role to teach or serve those who need leadership, healing or teaching! The righteous and/or healthy ones, those other members of your team are not who need your leadership - it’s the bad apples. Leaders tend to take credit for the ones who are healthy/play well on the team and use the ‘bad apple’ language to avoid their (the leader’s) job, their LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE!?!
As leaders, we likely have a high percentage of folks who are just fine with or without your leadership. Your responsibility and role on the team (if you are to be an effective leader vs just another manager maintaining status quo) is to teach, lead, grow, mentor and develop those sick ones…the bad apples. Managers & organizations often just view ‘bad apples’ as if they are not salvageable and the only solution is to just get rid of them. While there is undoubtedly a small % that deserve this and need to be tossed out; the vast majority of those bad apples (in my humble opinion) can be led to become healthy productive team players.
Are you up for your LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE? Are you willing to have ‘dinners’ with the sick (the bad apples); teach and make them well? Jesus knew his purpose,…… do you, do we, and does organizational leadership?
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
There are so many messages within these scriptures for leaders, but allow me to focus on one I relate to and use in discussions with leaders. An assumption from my first book:
[ Both leaders and followers in the workplace and society have become accepting and numb to ineffective leadership. Most of us have accepted how non-productive, unenthusiastic, and ineffective we and those around us really are! We accept this insanity as just the way it is and has to be (poor relationships between individuals and departments, conflicts and bottlenecks, poor attitudes, bad apples and bad management). ]
The point I make here is regarding this ‘bad apples’ thought. There is this conscious or subconscious thinking on the part of many in leadership roles, that there just will always be those bad apples on any team. These bad apples might be viewed as the two or three folks on every team that have issues,… cause trouble,… they challenge YOU,,… don’t seem to be team-players,… the ones always in conflict,… or some other shortage of abilities and/or skills.
In looking back at the scripture, Jesus speaks of His role to teach or serve those who need leadership, healing or teaching! The righteous and/or healthy ones, those other members of your team are not who need your leadership - it’s the bad apples. Leaders tend to take credit for the ones who are healthy/play well on the team and use the ‘bad apple’ language to avoid their (the leader’s) job, their LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE!?!
As leaders, we likely have a high percentage of folks who are just fine with or without your leadership. Your responsibility and role on the team (if you are to be an effective leader vs just another manager maintaining status quo) is to teach, lead, grow, mentor and develop those sick ones…the bad apples. Managers & organizations often just view ‘bad apples’ as if they are not salvageable and the only solution is to just get rid of them. While there is undoubtedly a small % that deserve this and need to be tossed out; the vast majority of those bad apples (in my humble opinion) can be led to become healthy productive team players.
Are you up for your LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE? Are you willing to have ‘dinners’ with the sick (the bad apples); teach and make them well? Jesus knew his purpose,…… do you, do we, and does organizational leadership?
God’s best to you and yours this day, BOOKER
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
HR JOB, Higginsville, MO
Saw on Craigslist, this HR JOB NOTICE (don't know anything further..
Human Resources Director
Date: 2010-07-13, 10:08AM
Working in accordance w/ the established mission, policies, and procedures. The HR Director is responsible for planning, coordinating, and administering the personnel activities for the community. Includes screening, interviewing, and training all exempt and non-exempt employees.
Location: Higginsville, MO
Compensation: negotiable
Principals only. Recruiters, please don't contact this job poster.
Please, no phone calls about this job!
Human Resources Director
Date: 2010-07-13, 10:08AM
Working in accordance w/ the established mission, policies, and procedures. The HR Director is responsible for planning, coordinating, and administering the personnel activities for the community. Includes screening, interviewing, and training all exempt and non-exempt employees.
Location: Higginsville, MO
Compensation: negotiable
Principals only. Recruiters, please don't contact this job poster.
Please, no phone calls about this job!
Blog title...
Working on TRANSPORTATION NEEDS for Lafayette and surrounding counties/KC area (as National HOPE Association Exec Director). This is regarding the Elderly, Disabled, Health related, Disadvantaged, Previous Offenders,.....and lots of others!
Would LOVE to hear from YOU if you have anything to share, an idea, a need, some money/car to donate, or any other interest you may have. Please do not hesitate if so...
Additionally if you have a need/passion or purpose and need a Nonprofit organization to work with, call us!!!
Meeting tomorrow/Thursday, July 15 in Independence, MO...call me if you are interested in joining us!
BOOKER, 913.232.0244 / nationalhopeassociation@gmail.com
www.nationalhopeassociation.org
Would LOVE to hear from YOU if you have anything to share, an idea, a need, some money/car to donate, or any other interest you may have. Please do not hesitate if so...
Additionally if you have a need/passion or purpose and need a Nonprofit organization to work with, call us!!!
Meeting tomorrow/Thursday, July 15 in Independence, MO...call me if you are interested in joining us!
BOOKER, 913.232.0244 / nationalhopeassociation@gmail.com
www.nationalhopeassociation.org
Thursday, July 8, 2010
CONFLICT with a Golf twist..
Leadership Linkage#1, ‘a series of articles connecting Golf & Leadership’
Think about individual and organizational conflict. People will be in conflict, accept it, it is a fact… the only need actually is that there are people ‘functioning together’. The issue may be anything, from implementing a new process at work, to how someone talks or acts, differences in views about life, habits/behaviors……and well, maybe even where we should place a wastebasket in an office!
Why is conflict so natural and inevitable. Some partial reasoning is that we work with people that we did not (or would not) possibly have chosen – if it had been our choice. Unlike other situations, (like church, school and/or some other social setting where we get to choose those that we want to be with), at work it is rarely our decision. In those other situations, we can walk away at any time; it is not the same in the work environment. Therefore, you must get along with others or face conflict….or leave, which rarely seems to be a good option ?!?
Ok , so you think “yeah all that makes sense, but how does it apply on the golf course?†Well thanks for asking.
Consider this scenario: Four people, (let’s call them Bob, Susan, Alex and Jackie) decide to go play golf for whatever the reason, maybe they know each other well, maybe not. Without any team/relationship-development or consciousness of conflict dynamics, they just take off on the first hole, assuming WE will just work/play well together naturally. How difficult can playing a golf be in the context of conflict? Let’s just provide some of the many dynamics that may occur now as these four begin to ‘play’ in these serene and beautiful surroundings!!!
• On every shot, Alex takes forever to actually swing at the ball, after all kinds of setting up, fidgeting, practice swings, adjusting whatever, staring at the ball……!
• Bob, being the office gabber, doesn’t really know etiquette here or in the workplace, so he just continues to talk as Susan sets up and swings…!
• Jackie grabs her cell phone which of course rings right as Alex is in his backswing…
• Bob doesn’t count his stroke, the one that was behind the bush, and boldly declares he got a 5 on that hole. Alex being one that plays exactly by the rules (in play, life and work) is extremely aggravated about this kind of math…!
• Susan loves to drive the cart as fast as she can and come to screeching halts by the ball when found, which drives Jackie crazy, who wants things slow and enjoyable…!
• Susan also washes her ball after every hole, and Bob who typically plays the whole round with a ball becoming increasingly soiled…!
• Jackie always jumps up to hit first, even though it is not her turn…!
• Bob walks across the line of Susan’s (and anyone elses) put on the green…!
• Alex just picks up his last putt, even though he is 4 ft away and all know he could easily miss that ‘gimme’ putt…!
• Bob has a cooler of drinks/snacks and trashes the cart,…of course Alex is a neat freak…!
Oh yes, conflict is extremely natural and inevitable. Relationships, communication and conflict resolution are interpersonal-understandings that many of us do not practice so well. We just go back home, to the office, etcccccccccc and tell someone else. >>>>>> Golf and the Workplace, hummm<<<<<
God's best to you, BOOKER
Think about individual and organizational conflict. People will be in conflict, accept it, it is a fact… the only need actually is that there are people ‘functioning together’. The issue may be anything, from implementing a new process at work, to how someone talks or acts, differences in views about life, habits/behaviors……and well, maybe even where we should place a wastebasket in an office!
Why is conflict so natural and inevitable. Some partial reasoning is that we work with people that we did not (or would not) possibly have chosen – if it had been our choice. Unlike other situations, (like church, school and/or some other social setting where we get to choose those that we want to be with), at work it is rarely our decision. In those other situations, we can walk away at any time; it is not the same in the work environment. Therefore, you must get along with others or face conflict….or leave, which rarely seems to be a good option ?!?
Ok , so you think “yeah all that makes sense, but how does it apply on the golf course?†Well thanks for asking.
Consider this scenario: Four people, (let’s call them Bob, Susan, Alex and Jackie) decide to go play golf for whatever the reason, maybe they know each other well, maybe not. Without any team/relationship-development or consciousness of conflict dynamics, they just take off on the first hole, assuming WE will just work/play well together naturally. How difficult can playing a golf be in the context of conflict? Let’s just provide some of the many dynamics that may occur now as these four begin to ‘play’ in these serene and beautiful surroundings!!!
• On every shot, Alex takes forever to actually swing at the ball, after all kinds of setting up, fidgeting, practice swings, adjusting whatever, staring at the ball……!
• Bob, being the office gabber, doesn’t really know etiquette here or in the workplace, so he just continues to talk as Susan sets up and swings…!
• Jackie grabs her cell phone which of course rings right as Alex is in his backswing…
• Bob doesn’t count his stroke, the one that was behind the bush, and boldly declares he got a 5 on that hole. Alex being one that plays exactly by the rules (in play, life and work) is extremely aggravated about this kind of math…!
• Susan loves to drive the cart as fast as she can and come to screeching halts by the ball when found, which drives Jackie crazy, who wants things slow and enjoyable…!
• Susan also washes her ball after every hole, and Bob who typically plays the whole round with a ball becoming increasingly soiled…!
• Jackie always jumps up to hit first, even though it is not her turn…!
• Bob walks across the line of Susan’s (and anyone elses) put on the green…!
• Alex just picks up his last putt, even though he is 4 ft away and all know he could easily miss that ‘gimme’ putt…!
• Bob has a cooler of drinks/snacks and trashes the cart,…of course Alex is a neat freak…!
Oh yes, conflict is extremely natural and inevitable. Relationships, communication and conflict resolution are interpersonal-understandings that many of us do not practice so well. We just go back home, to the office, etcccccccccc and tell someone else. >>>>>> Golf and the Workplace, hummm<<<<<
God's best to you, BOOKER
Monday, July 5, 2010
To PEACE in your life..
Some thoughts to share below….but first a quick reminder that the National HOPE Association Meet/Greet is tomorrow night, 5-7pm...please stop by if possible. Here are a couple of links for the details if you haven't received an invite (or lost it)!!!
LINKED IN: http://ping.fm/qqSqI
FACEBOOK: http://ping.fm/V8L9I
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Some thoughts on this World of OURS - I am not sure if these were prompted by Church yesterday, the 4th of July/Patriotism thing, my Teaching, my Hometown challenges, the National HOPE Association purpose I am focused on, etc…but these random thoughts hit me listening to the Pastor yesterday>
• What an AWESOME world we have…
• So much PAIN/SUFFERING happening….
• BEAUTY can be found in abundance…
• Everyone doesn’t have our FREEDOMs...
• LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS make it good...
• Around us we find HATRED/EVIL staring at us…
• So much is NEEDED by so many…
• GREAT PEOPLE are all around us…
• PAIN, SADNESS & BAD stuff can happen to all sorts of folks…
It just struck me how much of EVERYTHING there is and how we can get focused on one or the other and then SURPRISE, the other extreme hits us or someone nearby. So keep your eyes open – IF things are good, stay conscious of the bad you might help someone with (AND) if you are suffering in some way, realize there is much good to be thankful for all around…!?!
I have no idea where this needs to go, I just wanted to share and hope it helps. For me, I just find the PEACE with all that is going on in our Savior, Jesus. Praying and seeking His Wisdom works for me; too much for us to try to tackle, process, try to fix on our own. I just try to put it in His hands. I hope this finds you HAPPY, in PEACE, not NEEDING too much and HELPING someone today!
Doug Booker, Leadership Teacher/Exec Dir of National HOPE Association
913.232.0244
LINKED IN: http://ping.fm/qqSqI
FACEBOOK: http://ping.fm/V8L9I
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Some thoughts on this World of OURS - I am not sure if these were prompted by Church yesterday, the 4th of July/Patriotism thing, my Teaching, my Hometown challenges, the National HOPE Association purpose I am focused on, etc…but these random thoughts hit me listening to the Pastor yesterday>
• What an AWESOME world we have…
• So much PAIN/SUFFERING happening….
• BEAUTY can be found in abundance…
• Everyone doesn’t have our FREEDOMs...
• LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS make it good...
• Around us we find HATRED/EVIL staring at us…
• So much is NEEDED by so many…
• GREAT PEOPLE are all around us…
• PAIN, SADNESS & BAD stuff can happen to all sorts of folks…
It just struck me how much of EVERYTHING there is and how we can get focused on one or the other and then SURPRISE, the other extreme hits us or someone nearby. So keep your eyes open – IF things are good, stay conscious of the bad you might help someone with (AND) if you are suffering in some way, realize there is much good to be thankful for all around…!?!
I have no idea where this needs to go, I just wanted to share and hope it helps. For me, I just find the PEACE with all that is going on in our Savior, Jesus. Praying and seeking His Wisdom works for me; too much for us to try to tackle, process, try to fix on our own. I just try to put it in His hands. I hope this finds you HAPPY, in PEACE, not NEEDING too much and HELPING someone today!
Doug Booker, Leadership Teacher/Exec Dir of National HOPE Association
913.232.0244
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
MUST READ, WORTH YOUR TIME, trust me
( No clue who to give credit to...great friend sent to me):
Five lessons about the way we treat people.
1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.
During my second month of college, our professor
gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student
and had breezed through the questions until I read
the last one:
"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"
Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the
cleaning woman several times.. She was tall,
dark-haired and in her 50's, but how would I know her name?
I handed in my paper, leaving the last question
blank.. Just before class ended, one student asked if
The last question would count toward our quiz grade.
"Absolutely, " said the professor. "In your
careers, you will meet many people. All are significant... They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."
I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American
woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride.
Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.
A young white man stopped to help her, generally
unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960's. The man
took her to safety, helped her get assistance and
put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, agiant console color TV was delivered to his home A special note was attached. It read:
"Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along..
because of you, I was able to make it to my dying
husband's' bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving
others."
Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.
3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those
Who serve.
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in
front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.
"Fifty cents," replied the waitress. the little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket andstudied the coins in it.
"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.
By now more people were waiting for a table and the
waitress was growing impatient.
"Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied.
The little boy again counted his coins.
"I'll have the plain ice cream," he said
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on
the table and walked away The boy finished the ice
cream, paid the cashier and left.. When the waitress
came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies..
You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a
roadway... Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of th
King's' wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by
and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along carrying a load of
vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the
peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the
stone to the side of the road. After much pushing
and straining, he finally succeeded. After the
peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed
a purse lying in the road where the boulder had
been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note
from the King indicating that the gold was for the
person who removed the boulder from the roadway.
The peasant learned what many of us never understand!
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve
our condition.
5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts....
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who
was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had
miraculously survived the same disease and had
developed the antibodies needed to combat the
illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would
be willing to give his blood to his sister.
I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a
deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will save
her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed
next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing
the color returning to her cheek. Then his face
grew pale and his smile faded.
He looked up at the doctor and asked with a
trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away".
Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the
doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his
sister all of his blood in order to save her.
NOW GO HAVE A GREAT DAY, and MAKE SOMEONE SMILE…that’s from me, BOOKER
Five lessons about the way we treat people.
1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.
During my second month of college, our professor
gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student
and had breezed through the questions until I read
the last one:
"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"
Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the
cleaning woman several times.. She was tall,
dark-haired and in her 50's, but how would I know her name?
I handed in my paper, leaving the last question
blank.. Just before class ended, one student asked if
The last question would count toward our quiz grade.
"Absolutely, " said the professor. "In your
careers, you will meet many people. All are significant... They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."
I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American
woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride.
Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.
A young white man stopped to help her, generally
unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960's. The man
took her to safety, helped her get assistance and
put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, agiant console color TV was delivered to his home A special note was attached. It read:
"Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along..
because of you, I was able to make it to my dying
husband's' bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving
others."
Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.
3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those
Who serve.
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in
front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.
"Fifty cents," replied the waitress. the little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket andstudied the coins in it.
"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.
By now more people were waiting for a table and the
waitress was growing impatient.
"Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied.
The little boy again counted his coins.
"I'll have the plain ice cream," he said
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on
the table and walked away The boy finished the ice
cream, paid the cashier and left.. When the waitress
came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies..
You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a
roadway... Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of th
King's' wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by
and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along carrying a load of
vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the
peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the
stone to the side of the road. After much pushing
and straining, he finally succeeded. After the
peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed
a purse lying in the road where the boulder had
been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note
from the King indicating that the gold was for the
person who removed the boulder from the roadway.
The peasant learned what many of us never understand!
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve
our condition.
5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts....
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who
was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had
miraculously survived the same disease and had
developed the antibodies needed to combat the
illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would
be willing to give his blood to his sister.
I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a
deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will save
her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed
next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing
the color returning to her cheek. Then his face
grew pale and his smile faded.
He looked up at the doctor and asked with a
trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away".
Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the
doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his
sister all of his blood in order to save her.
NOW GO HAVE A GREAT DAY, and MAKE SOMEONE SMILE…that’s from me, BOOKER
Friday, June 25, 2010
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Come out to our first networking event in Kansas City. Raffle, information, meet the team, door prizes, refreshment, fun....July 6/5-7pm
The National HOPE Association (NHA) is a nonprofit organization with people focused on finding ways to help people...one family at a time; locally, regionally and even nationally!
We are just getting started and would like to connect with people for lots of reasons:
* Finding support
* Potential employment
* Developing partnerships and affiliations
* Financial support
* Cars for our donated cars program
* Ideas and thoughts you might have regarding people/organizations/situations needing our help
* Your help as a potential board member
* To help us 'help people'
Our primary focus at the moment is in the area of providing transportation to people, organizations and rural areas in need. Transportation touches everyone, and there are people all around us being challenged just to get to work, as well as many other reasons (health issues, food, education, elderly, etc).
links to invites for the networking event:
http://ping.fm/z0DAT
http://ping.fm/VLV6O
DOUG BOOKER, Exec Director 913.232.0244
The National HOPE Association (NHA) is a nonprofit organization with people focused on finding ways to help people...one family at a time; locally, regionally and even nationally!
We are just getting started and would like to connect with people for lots of reasons:
* Finding support
* Potential employment
* Developing partnerships and affiliations
* Financial support
* Cars for our donated cars program
* Ideas and thoughts you might have regarding people/organizations/situations needing our help
* Your help as a potential board member
* To help us 'help people'
Our primary focus at the moment is in the area of providing transportation to people, organizations and rural areas in need. Transportation touches everyone, and there are people all around us being challenged just to get to work, as well as many other reasons (health issues, food, education, elderly, etc).
links to invites for the networking event:
http://ping.fm/z0DAT
http://ping.fm/VLV6O
DOUG BOOKER, Exec Director 913.232.0244
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Thinking and Praying..
I was reading, thinking and praying this morning about all the blessings in my life, but also about how much I want to serve HIM, help people, do meaningful, purposeful work, etc. I AM blessed, but struggle with where He wants me, how He wants me to do his work, how I can help people...
It is what consumes me right now and in the midst of nothing but positives going on in my life: teaching, coaching, connecting people, great family and now even serving people thru a NonProfit organization I am leading!
The point here is that I was reading and praying for patience, not to worry, being calm, waiting on Him to use me...and thinking “I believe I am doing good things, doing the right thing (and yeah I know it’s not about doing good works, etc ïŠ);
but is it JUST staying focused, trusting in Him and knowing He will take care of it all when He decides to, in His own way? Of course it is, duhhh…â€
Well anyway, in the midst of all that pondering here this morning, I came across Psalm 37:5 >
“… Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him and He will do this:
He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn,
The justice of your cause like the noonday sun.
Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him….â€
Well anyway, it worked for me; likely it wasn’t just a coincidence I stumbled across THIS scripture in the middle of THESE thoughts, huh?
Maybe it gives you some peace as well. Thanks for listening.
God’s best to you this day,
BOOKER
It is what consumes me right now and in the midst of nothing but positives going on in my life: teaching, coaching, connecting people, great family and now even serving people thru a NonProfit organization I am leading!
The point here is that I was reading and praying for patience, not to worry, being calm, waiting on Him to use me...and thinking “I believe I am doing good things, doing the right thing (and yeah I know it’s not about doing good works, etc ïŠ);
but is it JUST staying focused, trusting in Him and knowing He will take care of it all when He decides to, in His own way? Of course it is, duhhh…â€
Well anyway, in the midst of all that pondering here this morning, I came across Psalm 37:5 >
“… Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him and He will do this:
He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn,
The justice of your cause like the noonday sun.
Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him….â€
Well anyway, it worked for me; likely it wasn’t just a coincidence I stumbled across THIS scripture in the middle of THESE thoughts, huh?
Maybe it gives you some peace as well. Thanks for listening.
God’s best to you this day,
BOOKER
Monday, June 21, 2010
Looking for a firm to administer an organization survey and prepare/format reports…this is one we have done internally for various clients many years, but need to outsource and also want new look while we are at it. Web-based, 2500 respondents, short fuse, international client, turnkey.
If you have contacts or recommendations, please contact Lorin Walker directly at: LorinWalker@tercon.com
If you have contacts or recommendations, please contact Lorin Walker directly at: LorinWalker@tercon.com
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Workplace or Church - chain of command
A recent leadership discussion with a church Pastor/leadership team validated the fact that nearly ALL organizations struggle with the effective use of a chain of command.
Now it is indeed the case that many folks think something wrong with the concept of 'chain of command'. In fact, it is my opinion that management almost resists the concept as if it were some evil thing. I am sure this is a connection people make to the military and thinking "we can’t be like the military here". This ignorance and unconscious thinking causes the chain of command to be circumvented, skipped, overlooked, ineffective, treated as unimportant and otherwise blown off! This view and thinking causes major issues, mistakes, barriers, ineffective communication and waste in the organization’s PEOPLE SYSTEM's productivity.
What was happening here with this church situation was a Pastor who was frustrated as communication was being ‘shouted’ to the masses. Because the masses are indeed a large mass, there is no real flow of information or accountability (down or up). Due to a lack of a clear organizational leadership structure (some might call that a chain of command ïŠ) – things were not getting done.
What was learned from the session, was a realization of the need for a leadership team. Everyone ‘below’ the Pastor, was essentially a mob (or mass) -the congregation with some players informally known as key players, but no real clean hierarchy.
There’s another term (heirarchy) some don’t like as if the whole ‘working for’ thing gets played up as something else we don’t want (people working FOR others). This is just management gobbledygoop…sure real leaders don’t have people working FOR them, and in fact real leaders serve their people. That’s another discussion in itself, ‘Servant Leadership’.
Many workplaces lead, manage or communicate in this same way – the one at the top, CEO, President, etc ‘shouting’ to the masses thru bulletin boards, mass emails, thru HR, town hall meetings, skip-levels, etc.
Even though many organizations have the structure possibly in place, the chain of command is not effectively used just the same.
Well enough for now, how’s your chain of command? Are leaders are at all levels (going up and going down) used in terms of communication, accountability, teaching, and otherwise MAKING IT HAPPEN?
Now it is indeed the case that many folks think something wrong with the concept of 'chain of command'. In fact, it is my opinion that management almost resists the concept as if it were some evil thing. I am sure this is a connection people make to the military and thinking "we can’t be like the military here". This ignorance and unconscious thinking causes the chain of command to be circumvented, skipped, overlooked, ineffective, treated as unimportant and otherwise blown off! This view and thinking causes major issues, mistakes, barriers, ineffective communication and waste in the organization’s PEOPLE SYSTEM's productivity.
What was happening here with this church situation was a Pastor who was frustrated as communication was being ‘shouted’ to the masses. Because the masses are indeed a large mass, there is no real flow of information or accountability (down or up). Due to a lack of a clear organizational leadership structure (some might call that a chain of command ïŠ) – things were not getting done.
What was learned from the session, was a realization of the need for a leadership team. Everyone ‘below’ the Pastor, was essentially a mob (or mass) -the congregation with some players informally known as key players, but no real clean hierarchy.
There’s another term (heirarchy) some don’t like as if the whole ‘working for’ thing gets played up as something else we don’t want (people working FOR others). This is just management gobbledygoop…sure real leaders don’t have people working FOR them, and in fact real leaders serve their people. That’s another discussion in itself, ‘Servant Leadership’.
Many workplaces lead, manage or communicate in this same way – the one at the top, CEO, President, etc ‘shouting’ to the masses thru bulletin boards, mass emails, thru HR, town hall meetings, skip-levels, etc.
Even though many organizations have the structure possibly in place, the chain of command is not effectively used just the same.
Well enough for now, how’s your chain of command? Are leaders are at all levels (going up and going down) used in terms of communication, accountability, teaching, and otherwise MAKING IT HAPPEN?
Friday, June 18, 2010
For sale: 2000 Lincoln Town Car Signature Sedan...175K mileage, great condition (inside/out), all power...great ride >Found a better mileage vehicle to purchase/Lincoln gets about 19miles/gallon (not bad)
Blue Book approx $4000 / Asking $3800 doug@bookertraining.com / 913.232.0244 Lexington, MO...30min east of KC area
Blue Book approx $4000 / Asking $3800 doug@bookertraining.com / 913.232.0244 Lexington, MO...30min east of KC area
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Sharing some pics from backyard, fish, flowers, birds and what I enjoy: http://ping.fm/hznf5?aid=2049546&id=1437215280&ref=mf
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Friday, June 4, 2010
Thursday, June 3, 2010
National HOPE Association, leadership request
Letter requesting your support...
Dear Friends:
I am personally contacting you to create awareness about the National HOPE Association, to ask for your support and to seek your ideas or suggestions.
The National HOPE Association (NHA) is a Non-Profit organization with a 15 –year history of serving Columbia, MO and surrounding counties. It is now here to serve the rural areas outside of KC, to include but not limited to Lafayette, Johnson, Ray & Pettis counties in Missouri.
The NHA's mission is to enhance the quality of life of citizens and families in need by increasing access to transportation and other vital services within our communities. The role of the NHA is to identify the issues disadvantaged residents and families face (through working with the business community, governmental entities, academia, human services organizations, churches and media outlets).
There are many ways you can support the NHA; would you please consider one of these:
1) A fully tax-deductible financial donation in support of our mission.
2) We seek donations of automobiles for one of our programs - CARS FOR MISSOURI, that provides cars to people in need. These donated cars provide new access to jobs and other vital services to your disadvantaged neighbors.
3) Finally, we are seeking your thoughts, ideas or suggestions for ways in which the NHA can better serve the public in our quest to build a better community, one family at a time.
If you would like to make a donation, join our organization or share your ideas, I urge you to contact me at your earliest convenience. I would like to thank you in advance for your generosity.
God’s best to you and yours,
Douglas M. Booker, Executive Director
National Hope Association
doug@bookertraining.com / 913.232.0244
Dear Friends:
I am personally contacting you to create awareness about the National HOPE Association, to ask for your support and to seek your ideas or suggestions.
The National HOPE Association (NHA) is a Non-Profit organization with a 15 –year history of serving Columbia, MO and surrounding counties. It is now here to serve the rural areas outside of KC, to include but not limited to Lafayette, Johnson, Ray & Pettis counties in Missouri.
The NHA's mission is to enhance the quality of life of citizens and families in need by increasing access to transportation and other vital services within our communities. The role of the NHA is to identify the issues disadvantaged residents and families face (through working with the business community, governmental entities, academia, human services organizations, churches and media outlets).
There are many ways you can support the NHA; would you please consider one of these:
1) A fully tax-deductible financial donation in support of our mission.
2) We seek donations of automobiles for one of our programs - CARS FOR MISSOURI, that provides cars to people in need. These donated cars provide new access to jobs and other vital services to your disadvantaged neighbors.
3) Finally, we are seeking your thoughts, ideas or suggestions for ways in which the NHA can better serve the public in our quest to build a better community, one family at a time.
If you would like to make a donation, join our organization or share your ideas, I urge you to contact me at your earliest convenience. I would like to thank you in advance for your generosity.
God’s best to you and yours,
Douglas M. Booker, Executive Director
National Hope Association
doug@bookertraining.com / 913.232.0244
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Friday, May 28, 2010
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Lessons from the Pencil Maker (resending)
...........sharing from a friend with some questions of my own> The Parable of the Pencil, Author Unknown
The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box. There are 5 things you need to know, he told the pencil, before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be.
#1: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand (your relationships and your relationship with God?)
#2: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil (acceptance of feedback, input & critique?)
#3: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make (Failure is OK as long as we learn?)
#4: The most important part of you will always be what's inside (who you really are down deep?).
...and #5: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark (impact on others?). No matter what the condition, you must continue to write (persistence?). The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.
>>>Now change places with the pencil!!!?... remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be. (are you continually sharpening yourself or have you become a 'dull tip'?...anyone ever accuse you of being a 'dull tip' before!!!! Have a great day.
The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box. There are 5 things you need to know, he told the pencil, before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be.
#1: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand (your relationships and your relationship with God?)
#2: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil (acceptance of feedback, input & critique?)
#3: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make (Failure is OK as long as we learn?)
#4: The most important part of you will always be what's inside (who you really are down deep?).
...and #5: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark (impact on others?). No matter what the condition, you must continue to write (persistence?). The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.
>>>Now change places with the pencil!!!?... remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be. (are you continually sharpening yourself or have you become a 'dull tip'?...anyone ever accuse you of being a 'dull tip' before!!!! Have a great day.
...........sharing from a friend with some questions of my own> The Parable of the Pencil, Author Unknown
The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.
There are 5 things you need to know, he told the pencil, before I send you out into the world.
Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be.
#1: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand (your relationships and your relationship with God?)
#2: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil (acceptance of feedback, input & critique?)
#3: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make (Failure is OK as long as we learn?)
#4: The most important part of you will always be what's inside (who you really are down deep?).
and #5: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark (impact on others?). No matter what the condition, you must continue to write (persistence?).
The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.
Now change places with the pencil!!!?...Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.
The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.
There are 5 things you need to know, he told the pencil, before I send you out into the world.
Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be.
#1: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand (your relationships and your relationship with God?)
#2: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil (acceptance of feedback, input & critique?)
#3: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make (Failure is OK as long as we learn?)
#4: The most important part of you will always be what's inside (who you really are down deep?).
and #5: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark (impact on others?). No matter what the condition, you must continue to write (persistence?).
The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.
Now change places with the pencil!!!?...Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Book review, relationships, solid ground..!
Dick Hardy's book (27 Tough Qs Pastors Ask) reminds me of the importance of a 'solid foundation'. As he does ever so well in the book, Dick lays out how a church/pastor needs to approach this - well done Dick Hardy! If you are in the 'church business', go get this book...
This all is completely connects to me in my own work with management, leadership, organizational development, teams, cultures, etc.
Just as a pastor and church need to build on solid ground, so does any organization or team! That solid ground may be different dynamics for churches, businesses, corporations, workgroups, etc...but much of it is all the same: PEOPLE, LEADERSHIP, RELATIONSHIPS, TEAMWORK, CONSENSUS, etc.
For your reading pleasure, here is The Parable of the Sower (from Luke 8: 4-15). ...and a question:
8:4 While a large crowd was gathering and people were coming to Jesus from one town after another, he spoke to them in a parable: 8:5 “A sower went out to sow his seed. And as he sowed, some fell along the path and was trampled on, and the wild birds devoured it. 8:6 Other seed fell on rock, and when it came up, it withered because it had no moisture. 8:7 Other seed fell among the thorns, and they grew up with it and choked it. 8:8 But other seed fell on good soil and grew, and it produced a hundred times as much grain.” As he said this, he called out, “The one who has ears to hear had better listen!”
8:9 Then his disciples asked him what this parable meant. 8:10 He said, “You have been given the opportunity to know the secrets of the kingdom of God, but for others they are in parables, so that although they see they may not see, and although they hear they may not understand.
8:11 “Now the parable means this: The seed is the word of God. 8:12 Those along the path are the ones who have heard; then the devil comes and takes away the word from their hearts, so that they may not believe and be saved. 8:13 Those on the rock are the ones who receive the word with joy when they hear it, but they have no root. They believe for a while, but in a time of testing fall away. 8:14 As for the seed that fell among thorns, these are the ones who hear, but as they go on their way they are choked by the worries and riches and pleasures of life, and their fruit does not mature. 8:15 But as for the seed that landed on good soil, these are the ones who, after hearing the word, cling to it with an honest and good heart, and bear fruit with steadfast endurance.
Q: Are your relationships in life built on solid foundations? How about your church, your work team?
This all is completely connects to me in my own work with management, leadership, organizational development, teams, cultures, etc.
Just as a pastor and church need to build on solid ground, so does any organization or team! That solid ground may be different dynamics for churches, businesses, corporations, workgroups, etc...but much of it is all the same: PEOPLE, LEADERSHIP, RELATIONSHIPS, TEAMWORK, CONSENSUS, etc.
For your reading pleasure, here is The Parable of the Sower (from Luke 8: 4-15). ...and a question:
8:4 While a large crowd was gathering and people were coming to Jesus from one town after another, he spoke to them in a parable: 8:5 “A sower went out to sow his seed. And as he sowed, some fell along the path and was trampled on, and the wild birds devoured it. 8:6 Other seed fell on rock, and when it came up, it withered because it had no moisture. 8:7 Other seed fell among the thorns, and they grew up with it and choked it. 8:8 But other seed fell on good soil and grew, and it produced a hundred times as much grain.” As he said this, he called out, “The one who has ears to hear had better listen!”
8:9 Then his disciples asked him what this parable meant. 8:10 He said, “You have been given the opportunity to know the secrets of the kingdom of God, but for others they are in parables, so that although they see they may not see, and although they hear they may not understand.
8:11 “Now the parable means this: The seed is the word of God. 8:12 Those along the path are the ones who have heard; then the devil comes and takes away the word from their hearts, so that they may not believe and be saved. 8:13 Those on the rock are the ones who receive the word with joy when they hear it, but they have no root. They believe for a while, but in a time of testing fall away. 8:14 As for the seed that fell among thorns, these are the ones who hear, but as they go on their way they are choked by the worries and riches and pleasures of life, and their fruit does not mature. 8:15 But as for the seed that landed on good soil, these are the ones who, after hearing the word, cling to it with an honest and good heart, and bear fruit with steadfast endurance.
Q: Are your relationships in life built on solid foundations? How about your church, your work team?
Monday, May 17, 2010
Friday, May 14, 2010
Excerpt from my second book:
The CLO, a guy named Booker :) speaking to the whole chain of command (all 70 management folks of Tool Box Inc (TBI):
Slide #3
‘REBUILDING on ROCK’
RELATIONSHIP
+ LEADERSHIP
+ TEAMERSHIP = CULTURE
“Gang, this is the beginning of a new way of existing here at TBI. This existence and new way will begin with you and I; all 70 of us right here right now. Today and our future is about the changed leaders here at TBI! Let me assure you that this is about YOU and me and all those sitting around you, and not someone else. It is about behavioral change; learning new ways to effectively take care of people and each other. It is about creating a new organization rebuilt on rock! The rock I am speaking of here is about strong relationships, real leadership and ultimately a caring team-culture. In case this concept isn’t clear to you, this rock deal originates from the bible, Matthew 7:25”, as he looked to the screen…
Slide #4
The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house;
yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation
on the rock.
“If we have strong leadership, committed bonds and strong relationships among us, then we are solid and can withstand challenges and problems that arise. Conversely, when we are built on sand, when we don’t have effective leadership; baggage, poor relations, conflicts, agendas and territories exist. When relationships are not solid, then we erode and don’t function well - to say the least.
And yes gang, this is us right now...it is what holds us back from being AWESOME! You are getting my point here?” Booker began slowly strolling across the stage deliberately giving people time to think. He then pointed at the screen clicking the remote to bring up:
Slide #6
“But everyone who hears these words of mine
and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand.”
As the murmuring settled, he turned back toward the audience and continued, “Let me share a story with you, my story...my leadership and faith story..."
IS YOUR ORGANIZATION OR TEAM 'BUILT ON ROCK'????!
Slide #3
‘REBUILDING on ROCK’
RELATIONSHIP
+ LEADERSHIP
+ TEAMERSHIP = CULTURE
“Gang, this is the beginning of a new way of existing here at TBI. This existence and new way will begin with you and I; all 70 of us right here right now. Today and our future is about the changed leaders here at TBI! Let me assure you that this is about YOU and me and all those sitting around you, and not someone else. It is about behavioral change; learning new ways to effectively take care of people and each other. It is about creating a new organization rebuilt on rock! The rock I am speaking of here is about strong relationships, real leadership and ultimately a caring team-culture. In case this concept isn’t clear to you, this rock deal originates from the bible, Matthew 7:25”, as he looked to the screen…
Slide #4
The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house;
yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation
on the rock.
“If we have strong leadership, committed bonds and strong relationships among us, then we are solid and can withstand challenges and problems that arise. Conversely, when we are built on sand, when we don’t have effective leadership; baggage, poor relations, conflicts, agendas and territories exist. When relationships are not solid, then we erode and don’t function well - to say the least.
And yes gang, this is us right now...it is what holds us back from being AWESOME! You are getting my point here?” Booker began slowly strolling across the stage deliberately giving people time to think. He then pointed at the screen clicking the remote to bring up:
Slide #6
“But everyone who hears these words of mine
and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand.”
As the murmuring settled, he turned back toward the audience and continued, “Let me share a story with you, my story...my leadership and faith story..."
IS YOUR ORGANIZATION OR TEAM 'BUILT ON ROCK'????!
Monday, May 10, 2010
Info/thoughts to share with YOU
Ain't life grand!!! . Heard speaker Mary Lucas . Looking for board member, Not for Profit? Reviews for first two books?...read on!?! Life right now is sooooo about relationships and helping folks and learning in so many ways!...keep up with relationships (to include yours with me, will you? :) If I have told/asked you in the past to holler if you ever need anything and maybe you do now, well then holler! I told you to pester me huh? My Not for Profit organization is lining up to potentially be able to put some people to work, so if you are looking - again, holler at me.
I heard Mary Bichelmeyer Lucas speak for a second time at a graduation this past weekend (author of "Lunchmeat & Life Lessons: Sharing a Butcher's Wisdom.") Very good and interesting wisdom...don't pass up if you get a chance to hear her.
I am Exec Director of a Not for Profit org called National HOPE Association. Already have a strong team and some amazing things happening (which I would love to share if you would like to contact me). I am still seeking a couple of friends of mine from whatever walk of life we met who could sit on a board and help. This is not time-consuming and not a paying gig at the moment; potential to be that! If you have the time and interest or maybe you just want it on your resume, being a board member, please contact me.
Lastly, if you read either of my first two books and you have anything positive to say about it...plz contact me to get some words from you.
Now go make sure all of your relationships are in order, build those bridges in all directions!!!
God's best my friend, DOUG
9132320244 www.bookertraining.com
I heard Mary Bichelmeyer Lucas speak for a second time at a graduation this past weekend (author of "Lunchmeat & Life Lessons: Sharing a Butcher's Wisdom.") Very good and interesting wisdom...don't pass up if you get a chance to hear her.
I am Exec Director of a Not for Profit org called National HOPE Association. Already have a strong team and some amazing things happening (which I would love to share if you would like to contact me). I am still seeking a couple of friends of mine from whatever walk of life we met who could sit on a board and help. This is not time-consuming and not a paying gig at the moment; potential to be that! If you have the time and interest or maybe you just want it on your resume, being a board member, please contact me.
Lastly, if you read either of my first two books and you have anything positive to say about it...plz contact me to get some words from you.
Now go make sure all of your relationships are in order, build those bridges in all directions!!!
God's best my friend, DOUG
9132320244 www.bookertraining.com
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
The Pastor leadership dilemma
As I have spoken, consulted and talked about for years, leaders in all parts of our society are challenged with 'other than what got them there'!
A good friend of mine, Dick Hardy has just come out with a book (27 Tough Qs Pastors Ask) that hits on this dynamic right up front; validating my thinking for sure. Quoting from his Introduction, "...Preaching is almost never a problem. Growing in the art of preaching is normally an energizing exercise for pastors. It's all the other stuff of ministry that does them in. In fact in most cases it is 'everything but preaching' that trips pastors up the most...."
Yep, there it is again. A leader from any part of our society gets THERE by his/her passion, skill, niche or expertise in something, and then struggles mightily with the rest of the stuff...leadership and/or management skills, traits and needs.
Great book, by the way, for any pastor (or anyone with an interest in leadership as well). For sure why I want to get more and more involved in working with churches!!!! Info on Dick's book, www.thehardygroup.org
What part of your life do you see this LEADERSHIP DILEMMA playing out...?...your boss, your pastor, YOU??????! Have a great day. BOOKER
A good friend of mine, Dick Hardy has just come out with a book (27 Tough Qs Pastors Ask) that hits on this dynamic right up front; validating my thinking for sure. Quoting from his Introduction, "...Preaching is almost never a problem. Growing in the art of preaching is normally an energizing exercise for pastors. It's all the other stuff of ministry that does them in. In fact in most cases it is 'everything but preaching' that trips pastors up the most...."
Yep, there it is again. A leader from any part of our society gets THERE by his/her passion, skill, niche or expertise in something, and then struggles mightily with the rest of the stuff...leadership and/or management skills, traits and needs.
Great book, by the way, for any pastor (or anyone with an interest in leadership as well). For sure why I want to get more and more involved in working with churches!!!! Info on Dick's book, www.thehardygroup.org
What part of your life do you see this LEADERSHIP DILEMMA playing out...?...your boss, your pastor, YOU??????! Have a great day. BOOKER
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